Oh, I'm so glad to see some replies to this post! After a few days I was feeling a little alone.
My older boys look like complete opposites: light, straight hair/dark, curly hair, light skin/dark skin, thin/thick. And my younger two are visually opposite as well, not to mention that they are the opposite sex too.
I always felt VERY uncomfortable in public because of other people's incessant questions...
"Are they twins?"
"No, they're four months apart."
"WOW, how did that happen?"
"Well, he's adopted."
"From the US."
"How did that happen? They usually don't let people adopt if they're pregnant."
Then a friend of mine suggested I just say "Yes, they're twins." Not wanting to be dishonest, I had to look up the dictionary definition of "twins" to make sure I wasn't deceiving anyone in my quest for simplicity of the grocery shopping experience. Then Google showed me the term "virtual twins". So now I just say "Yes" to the strangers' questions and smile while walking away. Unless I'm stuck in line and then I just smile and nod when they continue...
"WOW, they look nothing alike!"
Here's a great post I read this morning: http://www.danoah.com/2010/09/how-mu...-kid-cost.html
I appreciate the validation from other twin moms.
It's nice to feel included without being forward and saying "I'M A TWIN MOM."