I would also like to move them into their own room but I would like to make these transitions gently and trauma free if possible. I do not have anyone who can stay over to assist with this transition.
Any suggestions would be GREATLY appreciated!!!
Wow Jay - single mom with twins. I did that for about a week, it was tough.
I don't know much about weaning 2 y/o's. Maybe you'll have to let them cry just a little bit in the beginning until they realize that they are safe and full. Sleep with them in their bed for a few days and then sneak out.
And I would suggest BF'ing them anywhere BUT the bed so that they don't fall asleep. It seems like they associate BF'ing with comfort and fall asleep easily. Switch it up a little and BF on the couch and then take them to bed. That's what I did with my TeenBaby 13 years ago. I wasn't still BF'ing her - but just getting her out of my bed took some consistency and about a week of firm parenting. She'd wake up crying because she wasn't in my bed and I'd go back to her room - lie down in her bed and get her back to sleep. She got the hint after about a week.
Good luck Jay! :)