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JanineRivera's Avatar JanineRivera 09:36 AM 08-10-2011

I have a 3 year old daughter and I am expecting twin girls in Sept.  For the last 2 weeks she has been much more needy and not wanting to be at preschool.  She was loving preschool for a few weeks and then started crying for me throughout the day.  I am sure it has a lot to do with the babies coming soon but I am at a loss as to what to do.  Anyone else experience this?  Have any advice on what to do? 

lesliesara63's Avatar lesliesara63 05:59 AM 08-14-2011

My triplets have been home for almost 6 weeks and my 3.5 yr old has been a nightmare! Tons of tantrums - screaming for an hour etc. My only consolation is that her older sister was brutal at 3 and she didn't have any new sisters to blame it on. Hopefully it passes soon!

onemore's Avatar onemore 10:27 PM 08-20-2011

Well, I'm forum crashing and do NOT have multiples.  But my oldest was 3 1/2 when his younger brother was born and, quite frankly, was wretched (love, adored, but wretched) from the moment I came home on maternity leave (babe was born 2 weeks later) and it lasted until he was about 4.  I know the stress of a sibling added to the situation, but I honestly think it's just the age.  Many kids hit this state of disequilibrium and EVERYTHING goes up in the air for a while.


We go to a playgroup/parenting class and the teacher, who is the most wonderful, caring, respectful, child-centered educator I've met, says that she considers 3 1/2 THE most difficult age to parent.  She has three grown boys, and says she would do teenage years all over, but NOT 3. 


Hang in there!  It WILL get better. And if it helps, my little man was wretched with US, but is the most loving big brother you could ask for. 

JanineRivera's Avatar JanineRivera 09:25 AM 08-21-2011

Thanks Ladies for letting me know that I am not alone:)  I am trying really hard to be more patient but it doesn't always work out that way with all these raging hormones!!