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]These are my first babies and we are so excited. Twins run in my family (hyperovulation).

So I am at 28w5d with my frat girls. I am definitely huge i think measuring at about 34 weeks. I still feel great but getting more uncomfortable. 

I would like advice/comfort as I am totally starting to freak out. Mostly because I want a natural vaginal birth and the odds seem against me, although I am using a very respected midwife who is all natural and my baby A is head down and all. I am just so afraid they will come early, and for me that means needing to go to Boston which is NOT twin friendly, natural, non-invasive. Very scary. I HAVE to make it to 36-37 weeks at least to deliver in my hospital of choice which is soo laid back and is as close to a homebirth I could get. Any other twin mommys finding it difficult in this era of interventions?

My last concern is with the amount of ultrasounds they want for me. I was blind and stupid early on and went to a scheduled 8 week ultrasound, completely unnecessary. I knew thge moment of conception, I knew my due date and yet I went anyway to "verify". I found out about the twins at 8 weeks but i really wish I had been more aware and waited for the 18 week ultrasound. But I cannot dwell in the past... so even after switching from an OBGYN office to my midwife at about 24 weeks even she felt better with another ultrasound to make sure they were growing at the same rate. They are di/di btw and I am positive they will be fine. But since the midwife was sending me to a new facility with a specialist that i would need to meet anyway in case of an emergency i went for my third ultrasound.

I am glad I went bc the specialist was soo nice and i loved her/ feel really comfortable in her ability to help me if i go before 36 weeks.. and of course the babies look great, my cervix is perfect etc...

So now facing another ultrasound at 30 weeks and probably every month after ... I am feeling really strongly about cancelling. I just feel like its sooo uneccessary and the "what ifs" are ridiculous. They are really getting in the way of my instincts and my emotions. Its actually more stress than I need and all I really want to do is hang out in my house, read books, organize and finish the nursery and enjoy my next few weeks of ME, because OMG theres two babies! lol 

Anyway, help me feel better? lol
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I know I am in the minority in that I loved getting ultrasounds. I loved seeing them and getting the pictures and the ultrasounds comforted me and made me less stressed out. So I guess I have no advice there except to keep repeating that you don't want them!

 

I guess again I am in the minority with birth. My twin A flipped to footling breech at 28 weeks and never went back (he ended up being a giant baby at 8lbs11oz and was pretty well stuck no matter how I tried to flip him) and I came to accept I would need a c-section. For me, it was about accepting the things I can't change. If they came early, the plan would be x, if they stayed put, the plan would be y (they stayed put and I had a scheduled c section at 38.3) and all I could do was hope for the best. I had a nice birth plan for a variety of situations that I created with my doula and discussed with my OB. Can you make contact with someone at the hospital you don't want to go to in order to get some relief from your stress? That way if you have to go there, at least you have a plan with them? I am not sure that is possible - all my plans revolved around the same hospital and team of doctors.

 

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My two head down twins just wouldn't let each other out. The presenting baby only got my cervix to dilate to 5 cm even with pitocin induction at 40 weeks 1 day. I made all prenatal appts for afternoon friday so basically the doctors didn't make me do an induction that late on a Friday. I refused "scheduling" an induction until I was 39 weeks and then only because my insurance was going to run out at the end of the month. I had hoped I would have gone into spontaneous labor but baby As position just wasn't right even after a chiropractic adjustment which made my body feel better but Baby A didn't drop any lower. Ended up with c section and sometime between Friday at 7:30 am and Saturday at 4:15 pm where I labored on a pitocin induction, my baby B flipped breech even though he had been head down for months! It had even been confirmed by ultrasound on Friday morning and I had the most vaginal friendly doctor in the practice on call for the weekend. She was great with encouraging movement, allowing me in the birth tub (unheard of for twin births at this hospital ), doing few cervical exams, just letting things progress as naturally as possible. She rooting for me to have a vaginal delivery. Had a great natural friendly nurse too. But still if the body doesn't kick into gear or the baby doesn't cooperate, be prepared to change your plans.

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Thanks for the replies! I guess I am coming to the point where I don't care, I just know one way or another these girls are coming out and I just want them to be healthy. I fear the c-section because even though an epidural or spinal shot is necessary, the babies do get the drugs too regardless of what the doctors say. Since I am preparing to exclusively breastfeed, I really cannot have two drugged up babies coming out. 

 

As for the ultrasounds, you would think it would make me happy and less stressed but for some reason the anticipation of the visit kills me. I'd rather just be left alone for the next few weeks. But I suppose it is futile to resist at this stage, maybe I should have resisted the completely absurd 8 week ultrasound but now in the third trimester any potential harm is non-existent I think. 

 

I think being a first time mom getting the twin surprise (immediately following my sisters twin emergency c-section delivery of my nieces due to HELLP).... I am overwhelmed to say the least. There is so much information out there and it is so hard knowing each decision we make affects not one but TWO lives forever. I guess this is what being a parent feels like...and yeah I better get used to things NOT going my way haha. I do have the specialist who will care for me if I go early, and I do trust her a lot. 

 

At 29 weeks, everything is still going great, so I will stay positive. .. although a new form of exhaustion has kicked in for me. NO sleep for me~!

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My twins were/are my first babies too. The unknown is so hard. I am exclusively breastfeeding and I think avoiding the narcotic pain relievers after birth helped with my milk coming in by day 3 . I had the spinal and pretty quickly those babies were out. My first baby was pretty alert and I was nursing him in recovery. The little baby too a bit to catch onto nursing but has been the champ ever since. Put those babies to the breast every chance you get, not every 3 hours, at first to help supply. If babies show an interest, feed them even if it is a short time.

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Thanks for the replies! I guess I am coming to the point where I don't care, I just know one way or another these girls are coming out and I just want them to be healthy. I fear the c-section because even though an epidural or spinal shot is necessary, the babies do get the drugs too regardless of what the doctors say. Since I am preparing to exclusively breastfeed, I really cannot have two drugged up babies coming out. 

 

As for the ultrasounds, you would think it would make me happy and less stressed but for some reason the anticipation of the visit kills me. I'd rather just be left alone for the next few weeks. But I suppose it is futile to resist at this stage, maybe I should have resisted the completely absurd 8 week ultrasound but now in the third trimester any potential harm is non-existent I think. 

 

I think being a first time mom getting the twin surprise (immediately following my sisters twin emergency c-section delivery of my nieces due to HELLP).... I am overwhelmed to say the least. There is so much information out there and it is so hard knowing each decision we make affects not one but TWO lives forever. I guess this is what being a parent feels like...and yeah I better get used to things NOT going my way haha. I do have the specialist who will care for me if I go early, and I do trust her a lot. 

 

At 29 weeks, everything is still going great, so I will stay positive. .. although a new form of exhaustion has kicked in for me. NO sleep for me~!


 

It sounds like you are doing a great job! I will say, definitely be aware of the c section drugs. I and the babies all had VERY sleepy reactions. I swear I was asleep for the first two days :/ I was SO out of it, and the babies, too. It played a part in negatively affecting breastfeeding in that I never got a good supply. They didn't even want to latch the first day at all, they were so sleepy. The whole thing was really sad and depressing and discouraging. Make sure you have a lactation consultant ready for you in advance. For me, everyone was scrambling to find me help, and I got help in the form of about 5 different consultants from the hospital who all had different thoughts and advice. I could go on, but it was a massive disaster.

 

29 weeks is when I started slowing down, too. Started taking the elevator everywhere, avoiding stairs, and moving much slower ;) I also got a handicap parking permit! That's SO Awesome that your sister had twins as well! They run in my family but I'm the only daughter so unless some freak occurrence happens for my brothers it'll just be me (I do have a twin brother, though).


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From the original post looks like you're in the Boston area? I have 16wk old triplets in the Boston and have found the local Moms of Twins assoc to be a great resource for questions like this wrt local hospitals etc (maybe to find the best back up hospital just in case?) I had a C-section but it was very smooth and best I could have expected with triplets two of whom were breech... I had a ton of u/s done due to cervix issues etc. not my first choice but I found that, as is the case with a lot of things that come with having multiples, I just had to roll with it. Babies are great so far (born 35+1!). I had planned to deliver at Mt Auburn but they won't do triplets (the midwives there will also do twins naturally!)

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Just to quantify I had an ultrasound weekly from wk 18-35... Again just had to roll with it!

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That's crazy about triplets , I wouldn't know what to do!! I am on the south coast of ma. My midwife works out of wareham but our backup hospital is Beth Israel or south shore. My sister was at ss and I am not comfortable there... C section rate is 45%!! Thanks for the link. I think I'm feeling much better :-) mentally that is...physically I am drained!
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I was supposed to deliver at BI but their NICU was full the night I went to deliver, so I ended up at St Elizabeth's of all places (it has a level 3 NICU and has poached some very good docs from around Boston recently). But really loved the NICU nurses at St E's. I was very happy with BI when I was there around 30weeks for possible preE. But again I wasn't going for natural delivery smile.gif

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Sounds like you're doing well.  Stay positive!  Your twins are in the best possible set up for a vaginal birth.

 

Here's a now very old blog post, but it'll get you feeling good about the chance of making it full term:

 

http://www.lookydaddy.com/weblog/2007/06/i_know_that_mos.html

 

And here's my birth story, with a lot of similarities to yours:

 

http://www.mothering.com/community/t/925854/twin-homebirth-in-dc-first-time-mom-great-outcome

 

Good luck, and best wishes!


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Awesome story thanks for the links... I wonder how different I would feel if my sister didn't suffer from the HELLP syndrome and have her girls taken at 27 weeks. As I near 30 weeks I feel very strong. Thank you all!
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Interesting article on boston hospitals: 

 

http://commonhealth.wbur.org/2014/01/comparing-quality-in-childbirth-key-questions-for-doctors-and-hospitals


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Ah, yesterday my boys were one month old. Here is their "princes" picture.

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Cute!

Today makes 32 weeks!, still going strong. VERy active girls. Starting weekly non stress tests tomorrow. Let's hope for 6 more weeks
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