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I am also nursing 18-month-old twins. I am usually able to tandem nurse them without them beating each other up. When the feet or hands of one baby do start to bother the other baby, I just explain that that can't happen while we're nursing, and that there will be no more nursing right now if there is kicking or hair-pulling going on. They know what "no more nursing" means, as well as "kicking" and "hair-pulling," so they usually listen pretty well when they get a warning like that.
I also have one twin (Luke) who asks to nurse much more frequently than his brother (Jaz). This is okay with me, but I want to make sure to get one-on-one nursing time with Jaz too. So we do sometimes take turns. Luke will come running up when he sees Jasper nursing, and beg to nurse on the other side. I will say, "it's Jasper's turn right now, then it will be Luke's turn." Turn-taking is very big in our house right now because there are so many things that they have to share (toys, etc.). If Luke is upset by this, then I usually only nurse Jasper for another minute or so, and then distract both boys with an activity. They are getting better and better at waiting for their turn.
Mindfully mothering SIX kids (ages 5, 6, 8, 9, 11 & 11) in a small house with a lot of love.