I just had to respond to your post, even though I mostly
lurk, because I have had similar struggles. My twins are now
13 months, plus I have a (very needy) six year old.
The main way I've dealt is going for walks at naptime.
I've used combinations of stroller, backpack and sling.
One scenario is baby and big kid in jogging stroller,
other baby on back in kelty carrier. Both babies usually fall
asleep pretty quick this way, then stop at park so big kid can
get out and run around while I transition other baby to
the stroller. an advantage is being able to push the stroller
to get any fussing babies back down. I admit also to sometimes
bribing big kid to get cooperative behavior, which is
crucial at certain moments here. Thankfully these days, my babes
are on more-or-less the same schedule, but there was a good
3 months this summer when one really needed 2, the other only
one nap. I tell you, I got a lot of exercise. Everybody out in the
stroller/backpack/sling until the sleepy one went down then
the other 2 could get out and play at the park. I did this even all
winter in Michigan....just need the right clothes and attitude!
But I can totally understand how frustrated you are, and there
were many days when my above "system" broke down for whatever reason. It sucks! This is why I try really really hard
to always have another adult around at certain crucial times
when I needed to focus on getting someone down. Luckily, my husband has flexible hours and we have money to pay someone to
help. Can you find someone, anyone, to help for a couple
hours around naptime? You can't just let yourself go insane!
Mom to Sanelma (4/9/98), Tapio and Helena (8/24/03)