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|I think we all had the expectation that having children around the same age would bring us closer & it seems to just point out more of the differences.|
Originally Posted by resimom
our twins are #4 and 5. they do have to cio some. there are times that there just isn't enough of me.
for instance, one does have to cio if the other needs a diaper changed. there have also been times when one falls and i put down the nursing one to check on the injured one and the one that got put down has to cio until i can make it back. i have also had to let them cio to go to the bathroom. that makes me feel really bad because it is for a selfish reason. i find myself trying to wait to pee until they will be put down happily but sometimes i just have to go. if i obsess over it i can certainly get very upset that they are cheated in many ways because they came in a set. i have to focus on the good stuff about them having each other or i will drive myself crazy.
if her babies have to cio because she is not supermom then i empathize with her. it is so hard to meet all their needs all the time.
single mama to 5 (12.5, 11, 10, and 8 year old twins)
Originally Posted by bu's mama
They tried for a long time to have a baby & they adore them, yet it's more about making the babies fit into their life than adjusting to life as a new family, if that makes any sense.
Originally Posted by JoDoula
I often wonder as adults how we would feel if we were sad, hurt etc.. and kept calling our husbands name, and they just left us alone and upset? How do we then think an infant feels? Breaks my heart!