I know having twins is stressful, but I'm just having a really tough time of it right now. I was able to stay home with them and my 2 year old until school started up (about 8 months). I teach. I've gone back to work. I'm soooo stressed that I wake up stressed. I can't seem to 'go with the flow'. I have SO much to do in the mornings and evenings, and many times, I'm the only one doing it. Here's an example of my typical day:
- Get the boys fed (dh helps by giving one a bottle)
- Get boys dressed
- Change twins' diapers
- Comb boys' hair, wash faces, clean their teeth
- Get dd out of bed
- Get dd dressed
- Get dd's hair brushed, teeth brushed, face washed
- Get myself dressed, makeup etc.
- Get lunches packed (usually done at night; I'm just putting them in the bags)
- Make sure I've got what the dcp needs
- Load kiddos in the van (dh helps in this)
- Take kiddos to dcp
- Go to work
- Teach all day
- Go to dcp and pick up kids
- Come home
- Play with kids
- Get dinner ready, set table etc.
- bathe the kids (dh does the bathing part; I get them in their pjs. Also, we don't do this every night but once every other day if we miss one night)
- Feed babies dinner (before baths)
- bottle before bedtime (usually dh is bathing 2 year old when I do this)
- read stories to all the kiddos
- If dh isn't cleaning up the kitchen while I read, I try to get that semi-clean
- go to bed
Yes, I know dh should help more. I'm soooo frustrated right now. We've talked and talked and talked about it. He gets off later than I do from work and his commute's about 45 minutes on a good day and 1.5 hours on really bad days. In the mornings, he just has 1 speed. He just doesn't seem to be able to move any faster no matter what's going on. Oh, and just so you know, I can get all my a.m. stuff done by 6 a.m. or 6:10 if I'm having a slow day or dd insists on wearing something I can't talk her out of, or wakes up all grumpy.
By the time I'm ready to leave for work, I'm ready to plop back into bed. I go to bed at a reasonable hour. I get fairly restful sleep. I've been "letting" dh get up with the cranky, teething babies lately, but now he's getting annoyed that he is the one "always" getting up.
He also thinks that I don't see what he does do. I do, but it's just simply not enough to take much of the burden off of my shoulders. I'm so darn stressed and tired (guess I've said that a few times, huh?).
Not sure what I'm looking for. Suggestions? Help? Advice? Just a place to vent?
Ok....off to eat my lunch while supervising my lunch detention kids. Yay for me!