Join Date: Jun 2003
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Hi Anna -
I am also in the bay area and couldn't find a midwife to attend a homebirth of twins. I had my babies at Stanford Hospital. Zoe's cord was cut immediately. I think the hospital/medical model is to immediately 'fix' anything that might potentially be a problem. In hindsight, the immediate cutting of the cord is very low on the list of things that bothered me. (But by all means try to get that handled in the way you prefer.)
For example, immediately after Zoe was born, one of the nurses was right in there washing her face very roughly according to my husband. He protected Skye from a similar experience. And this nurse was very much trying to help us keep the birth natural. Just a lot of what they do I guess is normal procedure they don't even question. And no birth plan is going to be able to cover everything like this.
My midwife, who provided all of my prenatal care until 34 weeks, when she realized we had twins, was at the birth. And our OB was one she often worked with and described as a "midwife in disguise". But the hospital staff also have a huge say in how things are done, and so even though he was supportive, a lot of things happened that were not.
We weren't informed until I was actually being moved into the OR that they were not going to let my doula and midwife in there. My husband did some incredible real time negotiating to get them in there. Even though my O.B. had delivered many twins before in this hospital, with my midwife in attendence, he was not able to predict this!!
Anyway, I just sympathize with your situation. It is really hard to try to anticipate what things will be like in a hospital - so many more variables in terms of staff and common interventions. PM me if you would just like to hear more about my experiences. It was definitely overwhelming for me, especially near the end when discussions of induction and such came up.
The good news is that I did manage to have a vaginal birth. It just felt more like a huge medical chess game than giving birth.
Trust in yourself. Go in with your team, but try to be prepared to fight on your own if necessary.
Good luck! Good luck! Good luck!!!