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I'm not sure if this is just a totally normal twin thing, or if I should be concerned about it.
My fraternal twins, Luke and Jaz are 20.5 months old. They are pretty much best friends, very attached to each other, and have never really spent any time apart (aside from occassional errands). I don't think either of them is the "dominant" twin, they are each dominant in different situations.
So, here's the issue: Lately I've noticed that Luke is very much identified with Jasper. When he sees photographs of himself, he says "Jaz!" When he sees his reflection in the mirror, he says, "Jaz!" When he hides under a blanket, he asks, "Where's Jaz?" and then pops out and says, "here he is!" He KNOWS that his name is Luke/Lukas (at least he reponds to it). He will go and get his shoes when I ask him to get "Luke's shoes." But, although he did used to refer to himself by name ("Gook") when was younger, he hasn't done it in at least a few months.
A couple of weeks ago, Luke dropped a chair on his toe (ah the joys of the "let's knock over all the furniture!" game), and bruised it pretty badly. He was crying like he was in a lot of pain, but didn't want to nurse, and didn't want me to look at his toe. He was soley concerned with Jasper and wanted to look at Jasper's toe. When I finally let him, he just kept pointing to Jasper's toe (the same toe which he had hurt on himself) and saying "ow." For days afterwards, he would ask to see Jaz's toe, and say "ow." I would point out that Jasper's toe was okay, and that LUKE had an "ow" on HIS toe, but Luke still insisted that it was Jaz who had the hurt toe. Then, a few days ago, Luke closed his hand in the door, and hurt his fingers. He did the same thing--only wanted to look at Jasper's fingers, kiss them, etc.
Does this sound like a normal twin thing? Jasper doesn't seem to have any of this confusion.
Thanks for any insight!
Mindfully mothering SIX kids (ages 5, 6, 8, 9, 11 & 11) in a small house with a lot of love.