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My girls do this too!It can be very difficult to deal with,and your right,it does bring the house down!It brings on tantrums soooo easily here.I dont have much advice for you now,I will be interested to hear what others have to say.
Ill tell you where we are at now though.When this happens there is uaually alot of cying!So for eg if T takes a toy from J,I try to go to T and tell her J is playing with it,and we need to give it back.T will scream bc she will not give the toy back(on some occasions it has happened though!)I gently take the toy away and give it back to J.Then I tell T she can have the toy when J is finished with it.She will usually cry for the entire time until she gets they toy.In the meantime,I gently remind J that T really wants to play with the toy too,and to give it to T when she is finished.She does not too long afterwards,and when she does,I make a HUGE deal of it!AWW good girl!Thats was so nice!And tell T see,she gave you the toy,wasnt that nice?You waited nicely and she gave you the toy.Kisses all aorund..........
Now what has really ben cracking me up lately is when they both have the EXACT SAME TOY!It doesnt matter,one of them will decide what the other has is way better!So what we started to do in this situation is say J can you switch with T please?Usually it is followed by a swicch peese!switch peese!And they will switch,and no more fighting!Most of the time I dont even have to get involved bc they will ask themselves and work it out between them.And of coarse let them knoe how happy you are with the way they treated eachother!Its funny too bc they do this when nursing,switch peese switch peese and they do!Usually rolling up over mommy!Ah too funny,the grass is always greener........