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If you think your twins are already physically ready to ditch their diapers, I would go for as much naked time as possible.
My boys have always gotten a lot of naked time, mainly because they love it so much, and it has had quite an impact on their awareness of when they have to pee, etc.
Luke is now 100% potty-trained, and Jasper is not at all. It's one of my favorite things about having twins. . . I always get to find out that this sort of thing doesn't have as much to do with parenting as it does with individual development. We did nothing to potty-train Luke (aside from naked time, and talking about pee and poop ALL THE TIME from about 15 months on). Luke potty-trained himself about a month after the second birthday. I think for him it was a matter of physical comfort. He always loved when we'd let him wear pants diaper-less ("my penis in my pants!"), and he reached a point where he was able to decide that he'd rather use the potty than wear a diaper. After a few days of no diapers, he began waking up dry in the morning and after naps. Something just switched in his brain. It took a little longer for the poop thing to get totally figured out. . . that's really only happened in the last week or so (so about 6 weeks after being totally pee trained).
I think Jasper will probably train sooner than he would of thanks to having Luke as an influence. He does already pee on the potty/on the grass fairly often (100% of the time when naked), but isn't at all reliable when he's wearing pants. Almost every morning, Luke says to Jaz, "Jaz, I really want you to wear underwear now." And Jaz says, "No, I'm gonna wear a diaper." But Jasper has been more and more resistant to diaper wearing, so I think extra naked time this summer will probably push him over that edge too.
I was really careful to never say to Luke that he was now a "big boy" for being done with diapers. BUT someone else must have mentioned it at some point because the other day he referred to his underwear as his "big boys." We've also been very conscious of never saying anything like, "diapers are for babies." Still, right after when he potty-learned, he began playing this game where he pretends he's a baby. We always indulge him in that, and remind him when he becomes himself again that he doesn't need to pretend to be a baby to get to snuggle in our arms (which is pretty much what the "I'm a baby!" game consists of).
Mindfully mothering SIX kids (ages 5, 6, 8, 9, 11 & 11) in a small house with a lot of love.