I've noticed that my 15-month-old b/g twins are not doing the same things that other 15-month-olds enjoy, and I wonder if its due to their twinness & if other people have noticed the same thing.
For example, they haven't bonded with any of their toys, haven't turned any of them into "pals". Could that be b/c they have a human playmate 24/7?
They're also very physical. While they'll sit & "read" books, they really love to dance, wrestle and climb. I'm guessing part of that might have to do with how I play with them - it's far easier for me to engage them simultaneously by roughhousing than by focusing on a little toy.
If I had one child, I'd probably expect him/her to shadow me, and would be able to run errands and model more mommy-type behaviors. With two, though, I have to keep them safe first & foremost, and that eliminates some of those opportunities.
Their language isn't particularly advanced, although they jabber extensively and make their wishes known. But I'm not doing as my father did & practicing words with them day & night. I don't have the energy & wouldn't be able to keep their attention.
What I'm trying to get at is, I don't think my twins are under as much pressure to communicate with and conform to adult behavior. Instead we've adapted to them & become more child-like ourselves. It has good & bad aspects, but there it is.
Has anyone else noticed a similar phenomenon?