The Twins. How do you feel about that phrase?
Do you call your pair "the twins"? Do you allow others to call them "the twins"?
Perhaps it's having been raised with certain ideas about twins (my mom had twin boys when I was 12), but this phrase REALLY bothers me! A lot! Yes, my boys ARE twins and I DO definately want to celebrate that special relationship! But I also want to foster their individuality and recognize them for their own traits and qualities. I don't think there's anything wrong with the comment in passing, but when people use it frequently I find myself really offended, as if it's too much of a bother for someone to remember both of my boys, so they just lump them into one unit. I think part of it is also because my boys were originally two of a set of quads, so to have someone call them twins repeatedly kind of stings sometimes.
My mom's dh calls her boys and my boys "the twins" and it drives me nuts! Especially since we never know which twins he's referring to! My inlaws refer to "the twins" almost constantly! MIL is getting better and I think FIL is trying to, but I suspect it's only for my sake b/c every acquaintance of their's that I have met immediately says, "Oh, and there's The Twins! I try to be patient and realize that twins are still a sort of a novelty for them as nobody on their side has ever had multiples.
I'd love to hear what you think of it!