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Hi there, I'm Kristen. Mamma to Kye (8) and twin girls Eden and Avery.
They are five months old and a bit now.
They won't sleep with us any more, they just kept waking and staying awake at night, but when I put them in the crib they fall asleep again instantly. I dunno, but whatever keeps them sleeping is OK with me.
I want to wear them but don't have the stength or skill to wear them both and just feel plain old guilty only wearing one. I want to hold them more, but same thing, KWIM?
I feel like I can't gice the both the care and attention they deserve and wear myself down every second they are awake trying.
I do breastfeed exclusively and for the most part, I don't tandem b/c I want a little one on one time, but it doesn't usually work out b/c then I am feeding one and the other is lying there grinning at me or something, so I might just go back to tandeming.
I have been doing, for the past 4ish weeks, a modified sort of CIo, a whine-it-out really, if they cry I go and console them. I check every 5 or so minutes with the whining and just try to console in the crib. I was trying to rock them both to sleep but of course can't and they have only on a handful of occasions, since they were past 6 weeks, nursed to sleep. They go to sleep on their own pretty well actually, maybe a few minutes of whinging but usually little to none.
I don't feel very ap, I guess I'm not. I kinda want to be more so. I want to do my best. What tips and suggestions for gentle natural parenting of multiples have you all got for me?