I found this site from a friend of mine and am so happy to have done so! I was on another mulitples board and often felt out of sync with the experiences and advice, so I am elated to have found a place where attachment rules!I have fraternal twin girls who will be 6 months on the 27th. I am breastfeeding and although it has been a struggle at times (a lot of times
) I am so happy that I have made the effort! These are my first and I am feeling like I want to be doing so much more for them than I am. I can't wear both at once- I've never gotten the hang of it- so even though I give them toys when they sit in thier bouncies and talk to them, I always feel like I am not giving them enough attention or "mommy time". I had a lot of help for the first couple of months, but now that I am on my own, housework has to goet done too, not to mention eating every now and then
I try to read a lot, but everytime I read a Dr. Sears book, I start feeling guilty that I'm not foing everything I should be. In addition, one of my girls is high need and I have to hold/wear her much of the time (even when she's sleeping) making me feel like my other baby isn't getting as much attention. Then, I start resenting the high need one and I even feel myself getting angry with her
. I hate it, but sometimes I get so frustrated I have to put her down and walk away, which makes me feel REALLY guilty, but when I'm so tired and hungry and frustrated, I don't know what else to do! Sometimes I feel like I am going insane. HELP! Has anyone else felt this way? Sorry to ramble,
but I haven't been able to ask these questions anywhere else, becuase they would say that it is fine to just let my high need baby CIO, or that I am spoiling her, or other nonsense. How have you all managed to attachment parent with your twins and stay sane individuals? I want to enjoy this time and not feel so bad all the time? I am welcoming all and any suggestions! Thank You!!!!!