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Originally Posted by redwolf2
The reality is sometimes they have to cry and it breaks my heart. But how to come to terms with this and step away from the guilt and move on to be a good mom?
HAs anyone had these feelings and dealt with them? I feel twin moms have a much different aproach to AP'ing (they have to) And I need some ideas. Thanks!
Three big girls (10) + (almost 9!);
One little boy (6) and a full on toddler (8/12) born with TAPVR (repaired at 6 days old).
Originally Posted by redwolf2
Most twin moms I know have told me it gets harder as they get older. I would think it gets easier when they are more able to entertain themselves.
Originally Posted by TripMom
IMHO - anyone parenting more than 1 kid has this issue. Clashing needs. Someone has to wait. Its a reality. Don't let anyone tell you that you aren't AP because your twin was crying while you finished his brothers bath? Parents of singleton siblings deal with it too.
Whoever said being AP meant you childrens needs were always met 100% of the time, on time? Its ludicrous - and its literally impossible if you have more than 1.
And as for crying - why is it all bad? Babies can't talk. Its how they communicate their emotions and feelings when they don't have words. My triplets cry every morning if I don't get breakfast fixed for them quick enough? DS cries when I put the baby locks on the kitchen cabinets so he won't pinch his fingers? I mean - its not all bad? Its normal. And even big kids with words use crying as a frequent method of expression (don't we all know it!). I would be way more worried if my kids just sat there docile to the world never showing any strong emotion . . . . .
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