What a timely post since I'm having my own dilemma on this issue!
I feel the placement of twins in school should be decided on a case-by-case basis and if your twins want to be separated, maybe that's for the best. You know your twins better than anyone else though and should go with your gut decision. They're still so young that maybe you should keep them together another year and then see if they'd do better apart. It's a tricky situation . . .
I have 7-year-old twins who want
to be kept together. They were together in kindergarten & first grade and did extremely well together. But, we just moved to a new house on the other side of town and my twin daughters will be starting second grade in a new school district. We did not think it would be a problem placing them in the same class since it wasn't a problem in the other school in the same town, however, the principal of our girls' new school will not honor the request. We've spoken with him four times and even had their first grade teacher speak with him to explain why she thinks it is for the best, yet he did not waiver.
Our pediatrician also agrees that the girls should be placed together and wrote a very detailed letter to the principal backed by all the current research on twins placement. She wrote in the letter that "they are likely to become more withdrawn and isolated if they are separated for the upcoming school year." We were convinced the principal would change his mind after reading the doctor's note, yet he's still sticking to his decision.
We hate confrontation and are not out on a "crusade," however, we're going to fight this as much as possible just due to the sole fact that we want to do what's best for our twins. I really do not want other parents of twins to have to fight this same battle in the future and believe a law really should be put in place allowing parents of multiples the right to decide what is right for their children regarding classroom placement. Several other states have already
adopted this legislation and I hope NH will be next. I feel it isn't fair for a principal to set down a rule without taking into consideration the individuals.
So, enough of my story -- sorry for going on and on -- I just hope you will sign this petition and forward to ANYONE you may know who'd be interested. You do not have to be a resident of NH to sign this, you just have to support this cause.
Of course, I also welcome any other feedback. Thanks!http://www.petitiononline.com/NewTwins/petition.html