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#1 of 21 Old 11-13-2006, 05:26 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Hello,
my (step) sister has become pregnant with triplets via IVF and her doctor is trying to persuade her to "selectively reduce" one for her own safety as well as for the other two babes. She is 29 and a VERY small woman, maybe 100 pounds and with a tiny frame. I know there are many other factors to consider, but regarding size of mama.....are any of you ladies very petite? Do you know of tiny women who were able to successfully carry triplets? i'm sure it happens, just hoping to share some real-life stories with her. She is so very torn about this decision.

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I do not have triplets, however I would seriously suggest having your step-sister go to Triplet Connection and post this very question. It seems that this is a subject matter that comes up very often and it would be best to hear from MoToMs (Mothers of Triplets or More) who have been through this.

Albeit it is mainstream, but since there are only a handful of Triplet Moms on this site, perhaps a different, more specialized site would be best.

Good luck and let us know!

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im not 'petite' but she should see a 'high risk specialist' for triplets... and she needs a 2nd and 3rd opinion...
w. IVF multipule pgnt is considered a 'failure' and the dr's push to reduce...

get her to a diff doc asap
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Thanks for your responses. She is much more mainstream than I am, so she will probably be happy to find the Triplet Connection.

Yes, I agree, 2nd and 3rd opinions are necessary.
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I'm not petite, but I know of petite women who have had trips. One is a friend of my SILs and she had her trips very early (I think 29 weeks) but they are doing well now at 2+ years. There is a yahoo group called Parents_of_Triplets_Club that I belong to and it is good, but more mainstream. Also, Get her Dr. Barbara Luke's book on expecting multiples ASAP. I swear the diet plan in it helped me get the girls as big and as far as I did before pre-e set in.

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I have a very thin (but tall -- model-esque and gorgeous, of course!) friend who has quadruplets. She carried them til about 31w. Tell your sister to check out her website www.bethsbabies.com

I believe she delivered the babies at a hospital that specializes in higher-order multiples.

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I'd query a larger pool of triplet moms. The suggestion to go to triplet connection is a good one.

I know a lot of petite triplet moms with healthy babies - but none that are as small as you are describing. The truth is that triplet pregnancies are scarey. And higher order multiples babies can have problems - especially those born too early. I have sat through so many dinners (our local triplet moms group meets for dinner 1x month for an MNO) listening to discussions about local pediatric eye surgeons, and pediatric neurologists, and OT, PT and speech therapy for kids with developmental delays, kids on the autism spectrum, kids with sensory integration problems, kids with chronic pulmonary problems . . . I am not trying to scare you - but I would say that about 1/2 the moms in my local triplet moms group seem to have kids with some type of problem.

Another place to go is MOST - Mothers of Supertwins. Its a higher order multiples group and they are very knowledgeable, informed and willing to offer good, balanced info. www.most-online.org is the website I believe.

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This got double posted - sorry.

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I have a good friend who is about 5'2" at most (maybe shorter) and she carried her triplets to 36 weeks and they were all over 5 lbs. She ate extremely well and stayed "active", meaning she continued to go on walks and go about her life up until delivery. She was actually told she was having twins (even after 4 ultrasounds) and did not know it was triplets until they pulled the 3rd one out.

YumaDoula I checked out Beth's website and that is quite a story! That is neat that 2 of her quads are identical twins. And you are right, she is gorgeous.

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I am not a triplet mom, but this caught my attention...

I am not a petite woman and I was pregnant with a single baby, and I developed pre-E and delivered at 30 weeks. I know that the risks are higher for multiples, but still, no pregnancy has a guarantee.
She could have a perfect pregnancy with triplets, or a difficult one with a single, or anything in between. Food for thought.
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Sorry. im very passionate about this. we fight like hell to get pregnant and the minute it begins to effect their statistics, docs insist that reduction is best. this is CRAP. no data indicates that this is beneficial. In fact, in many cases the mom can go on to lose all 3. PLease ask her to email me. I am 5'3" and was a size 4 when I got preggo...very petite frame, small bones. everyone freaked b/c I was so small, but I carried my babies to 32 weeks before delivering due to pre eclampsia. My babies came out breathing room air and were basically feeders and growes in the NICU.

I have a friend who is more petite than me and she delivered beyond 32 weeks. another local acquaintance carried hers 37 weeks and delivered VAGINALLY. yes, you read that right. I have another friend (these are all local) who is 5'2" and she weighed around 110 and she carried hers to 31 +weeks. So it truly depends. I think having a big frame can be helpful, but I have larger friends who delivered before I did. there are so many factors. BUT--just like any other pregnancy, there are no guarantees. If she reduces, she is GUARANTEED not to have 3 babies.

PLEASE have her check out triplet connection. it is a great resource and very anti-reduction--b/c there is no reason for it. ANd please feel free to ask her to email me. I'll send her pics of me so she can see it is doable. Oh--and I have incredibly healthy babies. at 1 year they are 21, 22 & 22 lbs. Not bad for babies who started at 3.7; 3.13. & 3.14 ehhh? Oh--and she needs to read Doctor Barbara Luke's Book about carrying high order multiples.
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I also know of someone who had IVF and did reduction and ended up with twins and one of the twins has physical deformities on her hands and feet. Of course, not related to the reduction according to tthe docs.

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Any update??

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No update yet. Thanks for all the responses. I forwarded her this thread so hopefully she'll look into some of the resources you've all listed.

She is at week 8 (or 9?) and is feeling pretty lousy with morning sickness and exhaustion, so I'm sure that makes making any major decisions that much harder. Plus, shes on the west coast and I'm on the east, so all of our conversations are via e-mail or minutes here and there on the phone.

Thanks again for your replies.
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mine was very bad...I broke blood vessels in my eyes...seriously. finally at 18 weeks they put me on something that worked...zofran. it was a lifesaver.

seriously, if she wants to chat, please ask her to email.
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My brother and SIL were faced with this aswell. Thankfully they ran it past them after my brother saw his boys for the first time via ultrasound. I had already read up on it at TC and told him about what I knew.

Basically it's like this. Triplet pregnancies are high risk, but not as high as you may think. They're almost like what twin pregnancies were risk wise thirty years ago. They've made major improvements in the "management" of HOM pregnancies in recent years. SR gives no significant benifit in triplet pregnancies. Studies have shown that reducing from three to two does not lengthen pregnancy nor reduce miscarraige. The body is programmed in early pregnancy that it is supporting three and continues to act that way. Now reducing from three to one can increase the length of pregnancy, however it's much more complicated and carries a higher risk of miscarraige. So basically, her odds of having three healthy babies is just has high, if not higher, than her odds of having one or two if she reduces. It's still a very personal choice though.

Oh, and FTR, my SIL was 5'2" and 87lbs (YES, EIGHTYSEVEN POUNDS) when she got pregnant with her three. It was her first pregnancy at 35 years old. She carried them to a day shy of 33 weeks. They were 4 6, 3 12, and 3 9, all very healthy and home within a month.
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My brother and SIL were faced with this aswell. Thankfully they ran it past them after my brother saw his boys for the first time via ultrasound. I had already read up on it at TC and told him about what I knew.

Basically it's like this. Triplet pregnancies are high risk, but not as high as you may think. They're almost like what twin pregnancies were risk wise thirty years ago. They've made major improvements in the "management" of HOM pregnancies in recent years. SR gives no significant benifit in triplet pregnancies. Studies have shown that reducing from three to two does not lengthen pregnancy nor reduce miscarraige. The body is programmed in early pregnancy that it is supporting three and continues to act that way. Now reducing from three to one can increase the length of pregnancy, however it's much more complicated and carries a higher risk of miscarraige. So basically, her odds of having three healthy babies is just has high, if not higher, than her odds of having one or two if she reduces. It's still a very personal choice though.

Oh, and FTR, my SIL was 5'2" and 87lbs (YES, EIGHTYSEVEN POUNDS) when she got pregnant with her three. It was her first pregnancy at 35 years old. She carried them to a day shy of 33 weeks. They were 4 6, 3 12, and 3 9, all very healthy and home within a month.

That is so helpful, thank you! I hope she's reading this thread. I haven't been able to get in touch with her lately. I figure its due to her not feeling well.

Sunshinebabies3, thanks for your input! I will certainly tell her to email you for some info/support.
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When I got pregnant with my twins, I was 5'1" and 110 lbs. I carried my boys until 37 weeks 8 days and was induced. My boys weighed 7 lbs and 5 lbs 6 oz. Now I'm back to my same weight after gaining 80lbs during pregnancy.

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When I got pregnant with my triplets, I was 115 pounds at the most (more likely 110) and I'm 5'3". I carried them to 36 weeks and 4/5 days.

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When I became pregnant with my triplets I was 125 lbs and I'm 5'9". I carried my girls to 36 weeks to the day and they were good birth weights, 5lbs 13 oz, 5 lbs 10 oz and 4lbs 13 oz.. Please encourage her to get a second or third opinion. With a prestine diet and really listening to your body, I fully believe a woman can carry triplets successfully, no matter what her size at conception.
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Please, have her read Barbara Luke's When You're expecting twins, triplets and more.

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