And it does get easier -- but it seems that it takes a lot of small steps to get there. Good luck, and hang in there!
around 10 months - grocery shopping alone
12 months - our local community play center
18 months - library story time and the playground (the playground alone was my personal big milestone)
I always nursed them in the car before we went in anywhere. I never nursed them in tandem when we were out, but I had no problem sitting down in the pharmacy at the grocery store or whatever and nursing them one at a time. They were old enough by then to wait a couple of minutes.
Mine have always been better behaved while we're out than at home
But they like places where we are moving/going. They would not appreciate a place like a coffee shop for me to relax!
Now, to be honest, i don't even think about it.
Face the rear for MORE than a year! Toddlers' necks are safest in a rear facing carseat
We had to finger feed one of our twins for 2 months before she got latched properly so I alway had a bottle of milk with me and was pretty adept at feeding them both at the same time so that took the pressure off trying to tandem in public - not easy with wee ones.
I second the PP advice to go places initially that are easy to manage (stroller friendly, nursing stations etc.) , in which you won't feel overwhelmed and neither would they, someplace easy to leave (ie not a mall with the car parked miles from you) and do something non-essential so that if it doesn't happen it's no biggie.
In no time you will feel like a pro.
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When they were very small I would definitely prioritize so if we had to abandon the trip for whatever reason, my most important errand would be taken care of first.
I think this certainly qualifies as a situation in which practice makes perfect! Congrats on having 9/26 babes!
My daily walks with my dog and the boys in slings almost always go well and definately do a lot to keep me sane, and the guys have done well the other times they've been out but I've always had someone to help out either the whole time or at my destination. The trickiest part is getting them from our second floor apartment down to the car. Our stairs are too narrow to effectively go up/down with a stroller. And honestly most days it seems like a hassle just getting myself out and about around Los Angeles (when I get a chance to alone, that is) but all your postings have given me confidence and I might just be ready to try it!
And congrats to you, gmvh, on your 9/26 twins!
I've taken my 2 y.o. and the twins out in the car alone many times, to meet my husband or Grandma, and I've had to deal with feeding two babies and a screaming toddler alone in a van. That's no fun!
At 4.5 months old, I took them both to the doctor all alone. That was daunting to me. I scheduled the appointment for first thing after lunch, and begged him to make it snappy so I wouldn't have two fussy babies wanting to eat at the same time.
From then to now, we've done AP and Holistic Mom meetings alone, but there have always been other Mamas willing to hold one if I needed help.
They are 8 months old now and I am getting very comfortable taking them to the mall or out for errands. I still do not like to load and unload them in the car multiple times in one day though, that tends to make them super cranky.
I imagine once cold and flu season passes and they are around a year old, I will feel very comfortable out and about with them.
Like everyone else said, they tend to do better and be more amused when we're out than when we're not.
I took them all over. We went to the mall, we went to the grocery store, we went for walks, we visited family. It's just a matter of having a "can do" attitude, in my opinion. If they started to melt down, well, I'd either finish what I was doing and leave, or just go with it until I could leave.
I actually found it WAY easier to go out when they were little and non-mobile than when they got older. Oy, when they were about 18mos-2.5yo they were RUNNERS FOR THE STREET, and I barely took them out by myself for months. So please enjoy the infant time when you can take them anywhere, anytime.
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But at least we tried. Hearing from you all was very inspiring.