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Thank you soo much for the support replies. It is so helpful to know at least that others have the same struggles! Why is that? Ugh.
As for angry DS - this is very common behavior for him. I always address it by distraction or redirection - a lot of "special service" - i.e. holding, carrying, hugging, etc. as I am often physically removing him from the conflict. But I am beginning to wonder if at 27 months old I should be doing more?? It feels somehow "indulgent" of angry DS who is constantly toy stealing, hitting to get what he wants, not taking turns, not playing nice with sibs, etc. etc. etc. The other 2 have their moments for sure - but they have begun to "respond to reason" in these circumstances -- i.e. like, "take turns", or "trade toy", etc. Angry DS has NOT at all begun to respond to reason. WDYT? Keep on keeping on? Or is there more I should be doing for him??
Becky, sahm to 25/04/2000 Chloe 12/04/2002 Cameron 19/02/2004 Caitlin 28/06/2005 24/07/2006 and Caden 14/03/2008
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Another suggestion that might be worth a try, since you have one child who is consistently the "spirited one" (both of mine are, you should see the fights they can get into in about 2 seconds flat!) I would try, whenever he's doing things that aren't ok (hitting & such) and seems to be spiraling out of control, try popping him into a carrier & giving him some intense snuggle time. For my kids, a front carry in a wrap would be their first choice, but I'd probably opt for a back carry (wrap or mei tai) just because that leaves hands free to continue helping other kids. Now, the reason this wouldn't work for me is, the second I popped one kid up, the other one would want up too, so I might as well just sit & cuddle them both on my lap or whatever. But since you have 3 & it sounds like the other 2 will continue playing, the carrier option might work for you.