My 12 month old twins are finally stumping us (pretty good to go a year without really being Stumped, huh?)
They fight over toys. If there are two of the same type of toy, they don't play with it much. The toy can be a little box one wants to sit in, or a book, or a shovel, or anything. For some reason, it just becomes irresistable if one girl is playing with it. The second one comes and takes hold of it, then a struggle ensues with a tug-o-war and shrieks. They look at me as if to ask for me to solve it.
Trouble is, half the time I didn't see who had it first. And I read that "rescuing" or "refereeing" are both unempowering. I should let them work it out unless there is physical violence. Sometimes there is, like shoving.
Man, this is really tough. DH and I have always loved these girls' temperaments, very sweet and loving. It is hard to see them get angry with each other.
What have you done in this situation? Also, they really want 1:1 time much more often. DH is a SAHD though and can only take care of them together all day.
(Identical twins Meredith & Monica born 5/18/02)