sarbear, I'm having similar experience to you. When I got pg, a friend gave me the book referred to above, and I went full steam ahead with the dietary recs. I've gained 18# so far, but I actually had to cut back how much I was eating because I was gaining *really fast*. Now I'm gaining about a pound a week, so I think I'd better increase just a little again...
But my medical experience has been like yours. When I went first to my OB and then to Maternal and Fetal Med, they BOTH recommended weight gain of TWENTY FIVE TO THIRTY FIVE POUNDS! I was shocked and disappointed in their position. They dismissed Dr. Luke's research, but maybe because I'm still early, they haven't commented on my current weight gain.
I decided to follow my intuition. I have PCOS, and so I don't think I'll ever make it to 3500 calories, etc, without gaining about twice the weight I want.
celeste terra, single wohm to twin toddler boys max and shoghi. bamboo village press