There are no doubt tons of controlling DHs, and pageta's might be one (I dunno). Work/family balance is a complicated thing, and the 2 people in the relationship have opinions about the comprimises they are making. Of course satisfaction with these compromises ebbs and flows.
I like the question: If you Could Afford Not To Work Would You? because it gets us thinking about the things that make us happy. I have to work and I hope to pick up better paying work, soon. But recently being unemployed has brought me to a place where I am again pursuing my childhood dream of being an actress.
B4 I lost my job, I would say that if I didn't have to work, I'd do yoga, act, and a few other things. And now I'm developing a relationship with a theater, taking yoga classes, and finding part-time jobs that will allow me to juggle these things. And so, I think it is a very good question. The $$$ issue has not disappeared for me, but I am trying to be courageous and pursue my dreams, even if it is hard. I have also discovered that my family, and my DHs have stepped forward to help, in unexpected ways. My religious beliefs have also benefited from this crisis, as I learn to trust God's plan for me. It is hard to do what you want and still have what you need, but I think it is very imp to do what you can to do the things that make you happy.