Well, to be honest there are some days when I DON'T manage
: !!!!! But I'll try to pass on some 'tricks of the trade' so to speak.
1) not sure about this one. I think honesty is usually the best policy ie: daddy didn't get his contract renewed so mommy now has a job so that we can pay the bills, etc. And then maybe try & explain what sort of changes he can expect over the next few months. If you're sad to be leaving them, tell them, but make sure to explain why you must go to work.
2) I personally prefer daycare because it's a sure thing. I find that more informal arrangements tend to break down over time, & then you may not be able to find a childcare place. I've done the running back & forth thing with DDs pre-school. Didn't like it one bit & got sick of feeling like I was always driving. But that might just be me.
3) Shopping, laundry, cleaning all get done at night or on weekends. Sometimes I put a load of laundry in first thing AM, then hang it up before we leave. Nobody said laundry has to be hung out during the day either!! Ours often hangs overnight.
DH & I don't have any specific jobs set out- just wouldn't work with our relationship style IMO. I do get frustrated with this aspect of working/studying!!! I feel like a lot falls to me to do, whereas DH feels like he's being asked to do too much. Ah, that old chestnut!!!!
Get ready for the long days, IMO. For example, last night after work DH did dinner & played with the puppy (that's an important job actually!). I helped DD with homework, sorted out a few tears & dramas btwn the kids, put away yesterday's dishes, set the table, cleared out school/kindy bags, & played trains for a few with DS. Post-dinner, I gave the kids their bath & put them to bed while DH did the dishes. I then scooted off to the grocery, came home, put away the groceries & went outside to take down yesterday's laundry. When I finally sat down it was 9:45 pm. I was probably tidying up as I went the whole time- god, I can't even remember!! I think the laundry got put away at some point as well......... i was supposed to do work work last nite as well- didn't happen!!