Hello, working mamas
My DD is 8.5 months now and will be 9.5 months when I return to work (start date = Sept 1).
I didn't really know what attachment parenting was when I got pregnant but as I read more about it, all I could think was... "Duh!" It just came so naturally to me. And, ever since DD was born, we babywear, exclusively breastfeed, respond to her cries consistently, cosleep, etc. I think she has a very good relationship with my husband and me... and with my mom as well (we spend a lot of time with my parents). My mom fully supports my breastfeeding, cosleeping (my mom slept with us), babywearing, etc. My DD and I have never spent time apart for more than 2 hours (and that was only one or two times).
We are kind of in a financial bind right now... and this job kind of fell into my lap. It's very prestigious and the pay is pretty good too. I would be the main breadwinner in the family.
But, I am feeling so, so guilty about going back to work. She will be staying with my mom full time in our house 5 days a week (mom will be staying with us), and we have a very trusted friend who is doing a homecare nearby, and we were thinking of easing DD into that after awhile too so my mom can get a break too
My mom is more than happy to help us out and we are more than happy to have her here- especially since she is so good with DD already. There is also a Waldorf type school close by that we would consider as well after she got to be at least a year old (part time anyway). Oh, and my mom is offering to bring DD to my work place during lunch break so we can hang out mid-day. Also, my future employer said that once they get a good idea of my work habits and work load, they would consider allowing me a more flexible schedule. They are open to it.
All I have read indicates to me that mothers should stay at home for the first 3 years of a baby's life. I'm feeling so torn about everything.
Mamas, what evidence is there that shows that a woman can work outside of the home and have healthy children? How can I practice Attachment Parenting while working? Please... I'm looking for any advice here.
Thanks in advance.