Hi all, thanks so much for your responses! I think that I have just been worrying myself insane over childcare. By way of background, we started with an au pair program in May. We had to let our first au pair go due to numerous lapses in her judgement that led us to feel DS1 would not be safe with her. Our second au pair was wonderful, but her mother had a cardiac incident and she quit the program to return home after only 3 weeks with us. I guess I'm a bit jaded right now as all of this has been very disrupting to our household, DS1's routines, etc.
|Does your nanny have much experience with two children at once? Have you discussed this with her?
We have hired a new nanny, and she really is good. This is her first week with us, but in her last position she cared for 3 kids under 3 for 2 years (well, it was only 2 kids for the first year or so, then the third came along). Her references dating back 4 years are excellent, and she is pursuing her BA in Early Childhood Development.
I'm feeling more positive about the nanny situation ...yesterday the baby and I were out of the house, and it was her first afternoon alone with DS1. She managed to get him to take a nap without having to lie down in bed with him, or even stay in the room with him while he fell asleep (is this the same child??). When he woke up, she said that he wasn't whiney at all (who is this kid? DS1 is usually grumpy for an hour after a nap). They did crafts together, then went to the park. The au pairs had a terrible time getting DS1 to take naps, and complained that he didn't have the patience for crafts (totally not true).
|Remember saving money is to your older child's advantage, too.
Yes, absolutely. We are big into saving, and are actually frugal people. But when it comes to my kids' education/care, I'm very sensitive. However, I think that all of you are right and I appreciate your input so much.
I think that an experienced nanny like the one we have is going to be up to this task. The au pairs that we had just did not have the same level of experience, and I think this was causing me a lot of anxiety and crazy mom guilt.