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#1 of 6 Old 05-30-2011, 11:22 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Has anyone had to fire a live-in nanny before?  Ours is under the live-in caregiver program and I'm not sure if she has somewhere else to go (I know she stays in the city about 45 minutes away most weekends, she says her agent has a house there converted to kind of like a "hotel" with tons of bunk beds and that she pays a per-night rate to stay there). 

 

She has TONS of stuff, as in she arrived with about 4 suitcases, plus 3-4 bags, plus toiletries, etc.  I would imagine it would be hard to take all of that on the bus/train and I can't see that she could manage it herself.

 

I don't really feel comfortable having her in my home after I've terminated her, but I also don't feel right about telling her and expecting her to leave on the spot.  I've thought about telling her on a Friday and then giving her the weekend to move out (meaning I'd be home while she did that and she'd have 2-3 days).

 

Anyone have any experience with this or ideas on how to do it?

TIA.  I hate this part of having a nanny.   :-(

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What does your contract say?

 

If she is being fired for "cause" then I would fire here and tell her she has x amount of time to have her belongings removed from the home. She should take what she can with her immediately and then arrange a time that is convenient for both of you to get the rest. You could also take the liberty of packing up her stuff for her prior to the firing. If she gone most weekends you could use that time to pack her belongings so they are ready go. 

 

If the firing is not for cause you may be required to give her some kind of notice. Most contracts have some kind of stipulation built in for termination of employment for any reason other than cause. However if yours does not then you have to decide what you are comfortable with and it sounds like you want her out of there. If that is the case I would either do what you suggested (give her the weekend) or terminate in the AM and then offer to arrange transportation of her things to the city that afternoon. Do you know someone with truck, minivan, large car who would do this for you either as a favor or for a small fee?

 

Obviously, no matter the reason for the firing, you will need to change your locks, alarm codes and if applicable, notify any place that she had permission to pick/drop of your child (play places, parents of regular play dates, schools, etc) and any place she was authorized to speak for your child (Dr, dentists, etc). You will want to do all that immediately. 


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call her agent/ the agency? Tell them the situation and ask the best way that it is done.


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When I fired one nanny I gave her "two weeks notice" by paying her for 2 weeks and telling her not to come back. I didn't want her in the house or taking care of the kids (she wasn't live-in) after I fired her. You can do this as long as you are in accordance w/ her contract and have a replacement for your childcare needs.

 

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Ontario Labour Standard Codes apply, so there are rules you have to follow about how much notice to give her, pay in-lieu, etc. I'm sure the agency already knows this stuff, but just in case, here's a link to the Code - it lays out all the rules for firing an employee: http://www.e-laws.gov.on.ca/html/statutes/english/elaws_statutes_00e41_e.htm

 

Good luck, that's a tricky one. :)

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I think packing her stuff would be incredibly invasive and inappropriate.  Even if the OP doesn't want her around, she seems to still want to be respectful and considerate.

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What does your contract say?

 

If she is being fired for "cause" then I would fire here and tell her she has x amount of time to have her belongings removed from the home. She should take what she can with her immediately and then arrange a time that is convenient for both of you to get the rest. You could also take the liberty of packing up her stuff for her prior to the firing. If she gone most weekends you could use that time to pack her belongings so they are ready go. 

 

If the firing is not for cause you may be required to give her some kind of notice. Most contracts have some kind of stipulation built in for termination of employment for any reason other than cause. However if yours does not then you have to decide what you are comfortable with and it sounds like you want her out of there. If that is the case I would either do what you suggested (give her the weekend) or terminate in the AM and then offer to arrange transportation of her things to the city that afternoon. Do you know someone with truck, minivan, large car who would do this for you either as a favor or for a small fee?

 

Obviously, no matter the reason for the firing, you will need to change your locks, alarm codes and if applicable, notify any place that she had permission to pick/drop of your child (play places, parents of regular play dates, schools, etc) and any place she was authorized to speak for your child (Dr, dentists, etc). You will want to do all that immediately. 



 


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