The baby loss forum doesn't seem very active, and I need thoughts from working mamas in particular, so I'm posting here.
I lost the baby almost 6 weeks ago now. I took one week leave and cried the entire time. When I went back to work I was relieved at how calm and "normal" I felt. Since then it's gotten more difficult though. I'm having a very hard time concentrating or getting anything done. (My job is purely mental: think, talk, write are my 3 primary tasks, in that order.) If I could, I would like to take more leave, but I don't know what I'd do while on leave anyway. And leave just means more work to be done later.
I just wish I could hit the pause button on life. I don't know what to do with myself, but doing nothing doesn't feel all the great either. Maybe a counselor would help? It's not normally my cup of tea ...
Mother of two since 2007 and 2009. Hoping third time's a charm in 2012.
I lost my daughter at 17 weeks and honestly, if not for being bombarded with multiple equally significant life crises (starting 3 days post-loss) back-to-back, I'm not sure what I'd have done. I was just blindsided.
There's no question you could probably get some leave (possibly paid leave). I'm not sure what you'd do with that time, either. Are you working with a therapist? I am now that I'm able to breathe and process. I'm also not working full-time. But I wonder if they might help you lay out a game plan for time off if you need it.
Also, realize that your body may just not be back to normal yet. Six weeks is a guideline. Our bodies are individual. My body was physically "off" for almost a year. Mentally? Hard to tell given the circumstances.
Heather - Wife , Mommy & Health & Wellness Educator, Speaker & Consultant
Dairy, soy & corn free with limited gluten... yes, really. And journeying towards peace. Blogging about both.
Let me guide you to find the food and lifestyle choices...
Married to overworked DH since 2003, happily mama to DD (01/09) and DS (4/12)