The baby loss forum doesn't seem very active, and I need thoughts from working mamas in particular, so I'm posting here.
I lost the baby almost 6 weeks ago now. I took one week leave and cried the entire time. When I went back to work I was relieved at how calm and "normal" I felt. Since then it's gotten more difficult though. I'm having a very hard time concentrating or getting anything done. (My job is purely mental: think, talk, write are my 3 primary tasks, in that order.) If I could, I would like to take more leave, but I don't know what I'd do while on leave anyway. And leave just means more work to be done later.
I just wish I could hit the pause button on life. I don't know what to do with myself, but doing nothing doesn't feel all the great either. Maybe a counselor would help? It's not normally my cup of tea ...
Mother of two since 2007 and 2009. Hoping third time's a charm in 2012.
I lost my daughter at 17 weeks and honestly, if not for being bombarded with multiple equally significant life crises (starting 3 days post-loss) back-to-back, I'm not sure what I'd have done. I was just blindsided.
There's no question you could probably get some leave (possibly paid leave). I'm not sure what you'd do with that time, either. Are you working with a therapist? I am now that I'm able to breathe and process. I'm also not working full-time. But I wonder if they might help you lay out a game plan for time off if you need it.
Also, realize that your body may just not be back to normal yet. Six weeks is a guideline. Our bodies are individual. My body was physically "off" for almost a year. Mentally? Hard to tell given the circumstances.
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