So I have just discovered that my husband is having an affair. While that is a topic for another thread, it has lead me to rethink my life plan. I have been a SAHM for the last 5 years, and I have to get back in the workforce. My problem is that my background is in marine biology, doing field work on boats for months at a time. Obviously, I can't be doing that with 2 kids in tow. So I have been doing a great deal of self-discovery and come to the understanding that if I could do anything, and be able to have my children with me, then I would work with animals. The diagnosing and problem solving involved with veterinary medicine is very intriguing to me. I have only a few prerequisites that I would need to take, along with taking the GRE's, so I have some time before I can apply to school. In the meantime, I am trying to work through the logistics of going to vet school, and being a single parent.
I am wondering if anyone knows of anyone who went back to graduate school, particularly med/vet school, as a single parent? How difficult was scheduling care for your children during weekend or overnight on-call rotations? I think I have the drive and energy to do both school and parenting, I am worried about having to move to my vet school's town, and not have a support system.
Any information/advice/interesting anecdotes appreciated :)
I don't have any experience with this and it does sound like a challenge but I wanted you to have a response and to get your thread bumped so others can see it!!
Wishing you well!
I graduated vet school about 2 years ago. I waited to start our family until right before graduation because my husband lived in a different part of the state, so I would have basically been a single mom. The PP is right. I was gone A LOT. And when I wasn't gone I was studying. My advice if you really want to do this, move there before you apply, maybe work at a local clinic or at the vet school. That can give you time to make some connections and develop a network. You will need to find childcare for variable and unusual hours. You will miss a lot of kid time. It's not like undergrad where the classes were here and there. We were in class or lab from 8-5 every day then I spend most evenings studying. You'll likely need a part time job as well because your student loans will already be ridiculous without trying to get enough for child care.
I know it sounds like I'm being negative but vet school was a lot of work and a lot of time. I wanted to be honest about what you might be getting into.
Feel free to PM me if you have other questions.
Wife to B since 6/2004, Mama to T (10/11) and (8/13). We: