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#1 of 7 Old 02-02-2013, 08:39 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I posted this in the general Parenting forum but just realized it probably belongs here instead. I hope it's okay to repost:

 

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My DS is 8 months old and I have been lucky to be able to stay home with him so far but soon I will go back to work (as a university professor).  I've found a daycare I like and have a plan to gradually get him adjusted there at the end of March. But in the meantime I have two out of town work trips (one a job interview) during which I will bring him with me but leave him with sitters for a full work day.  For both he will be with sitters he doesn't know at all and there's no time to get him warmed up to them.  Is there anything I can do to make this easier for him? I've tried leaving him with sitters for up to 2 hours a time and he gets very upset when he realizes I'm gone. I'm dreading this on his behalf.

 

http://www.mothering.com/community/t/1373773/tips-for-leaving-baby-all-day-with-babysitter-he-doesnt-know

 

And I should add I'm a single mom.

 

 

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You've probably already thought of this, but I would just make sure that the sitters know everything that there is to know about how to comfort your son. Complete with how to rock him, swaddle, etc. I work at a daycare and it's amazing how many parents don't think to tell us those things.

 

Is there anyway that you could come by mid day to feed him? That may help, and would probably also help him settle to sleep.
 

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Thank you! For the first trip they are going to bring him to me every couple of hours to nurse, but for the second trip (the job interview) that won't work.  My older son (age 10) has offered to come with me for the job interview trip, which would help a lot as he's the only other person the baby is 100% comfortable with. So the sitter would be there to keep them safe but DS #1 would ensure DS#2's happiness. Now I just have to convince DS#1's dad (my ex) to let him come with and miss school for a couple of days.

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No ideas. My little guy is only five months and turns into a Broadway Play if DH and I let someone else so much as touch him but I wish you luck. Sending warm thoughts your way.
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Thanks for the good wishes! The first trip was early this week, and it went okay. Baby cried for about 5 minutes each time we parted and were reunited, but the rest of the time the sitter said he was pretty content.  Big brother's dad said he can go with us for the second trip so hopefully that will go okay too.  I'm feeling better about it, having seen that he survived the first trip and seems no worse for it.
 

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Awesome! Good luck with round two!
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Keep us posted! That is a hard age because they are just becoming aware of separation. I'm glad it went well!! Good luck with the second.
 


 
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