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Hello moms,

 

If you and dh both work and don't have any family to watch your dc where do you leave your children? I am a SAHM but did have help when dd was a baby and worked a couple to a few days a week when gps were able to watch her. I don't have that option now. I don't and probably will not be able to afford a full time nanny in the event I went back to full time work. Where do you leave your kids?

 

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I am a sahm but he will have to go to daycare when I start back at work.
 

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I am a sahm but he will have to go to daycare when I start back at work.
 

Sorry, I forgot to say not daycare aged kids.


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If they are elementary school age then a daycare that caters to school age children like Just For Kids or a YMCA program works well. Teens can usually stay home alone after school, the Boys and Girls Club and YMCA have great teen program. Some community centers have good teen programs also. If there is a medical reason your children can't be home alone then you may qualify for some sort of respite care.
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Older kids usually go to "camps" over the summer either cheaper options offered by city parks and rec programs or ymca. Or rotate through more expensive camps at a variety of schools. Or visit family out of state. Or stay home alone. Or stay with rotate through friends who have SAHM.

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If they are elementary school age then a daycare that caters to school age children like Just For Kids or a YMCA program works well. Teens can usually stay home alone after school, the Boys and Girls Club and YMCA have great teen program. Some community centers have good teen programs also. If there is a medical reason your children can't be home alone then you may qualify for some sort of respite care.

i didn't know there were daycares for elementary aged children. I know most schools have the after care program which is reasonable and convenient and for summer I have seen summer camps by the Y, i think. but it's those odd days like when they have a holiday for Martin Luther King day or winter break and spring breaks which I am actually wondering about.


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Most after school programs run during most school days off. There are maybe six days year round they are closed.
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Yup, the YMCA and various camps. The Y also has a program to cover those odd days, and I know other parents use drop-in child care which is more common around here than in other places. On a few occasions, the neighbors and I have covered for each other... if one of us wrangles the day off, we'll take the other's kid(s) for a playdate until they can come home.

ETA: I forgot that the county and town also has some summer camps and classes/courses that line up with school days off as well.

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The Boys and Girls club here is also open all day on schools out days. We did a mixture. Now they are teens we mix camps with staying home for "down time"
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Most daycare centers also do aftercare and summer camp with extended hours. They also take the kids on school holidays and spring break. Ours picks up from several elementary schools and takes kids up to age 12.

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Most after school programs run during most school days off. There are maybe six days year round they are closed.

I don't think an after school would make much sense if the whole day is off as the child needs care in the mornings as well or is there something I'm missing?


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Yup, the YMCA and various camps. The Y also has a program to cover those odd days, and I know other parents use drop-in child care which is more common around here than in other places. On a few occasions, the neighbors and I have covered for each other... if one of us wrangles the day off, we'll take the other's kid(s) for a playdate until they can come home.

ETA: I forgot that the county and town also has some summer camps and classes/courses that line up with school days off as well.

Thanks, I'll check with our Y which is at least 20 minutes far at best. I don't know what it is at rush hour.


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They run all day on school days off.
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Our city rec departments does vacation week camps and playground camp (or when you are over 11 "club") during the summer.

 

Even in our little city there are a couple drop in learning centers that do all day or half day activities on the days school is out.  

 

And like others have mentioned BC/GC and the Y.    

 

Most of the public schools here have an afterschool programs (often run by a local daycare) attached to them for that hour or three between school day end and work day end. And these same programs have a school vacation day program too, which may or may not cost more to cover the half dozen holidays my DS gets that I don't get off from work. 


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They run all day on school days off.

Oh, Ok. Thanks for that info.


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Our public schools here do not do after care (one private does), the kids are bussed to a parks and rec program or to the Boys and Girls Club. Those same programs are the ones that handle summer vacations and holidays off from school. There are days that they do not cover, certain holidays, and some random days here and there. In our town, it ends up being that who ever can take kids takes them. So Johnny's mom asks Susie's mom for an all day play date, etc... 


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When elementary schools have a day off, so do high schools.  A teenager could babysit in your home.  I used to do this when I was a teen, for children of my dad's co-workers, neighbors, or people we knew from church.  If you don't know any teens, ask around or hang up a flyer in/near a high school.

 

Another option might be to bring your child to work with you--depending on your job and your child.  I work in an office managing data for a research study.  My son likes to spend the occasional day at my office doing crafts with my scrap paper and hole puncher, playing iPad games, reading, etc.
 


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