After posting an ad and interviewing people for a 10 hrs a week mother's helper position, we are now on our third month with a woman I am truly beginning to see as family. We offered a slightly low wage for the service for our area because it is all we can afford at the time, and I honestly expected only someone younger or with less experience to take it, and then it would have been more fair. However, this woman is not only an experienced mother of three but just overall a wonderful human being.
I wish I could give her a huge raise, but I can't, and it's making my feminist alarm bells ring. She simply deserves more for her labor, and what her presence in my life does for our family.
I have no reason to believe she is unhappy, and she hasn't asked for more money. But I just feel a need to do more.
Any ideas? I already give her lots of flexibility around her kids school schedule, etc. She brings her toddler along and she is very welcome here. I don't ask her to do anything beyond dishes and laundry around the house.
I do think we will be giving her at least a small raise soon.
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How wonderful for you and your family! EAch of our child care providers has become a treasured gift to us and I, like you, struggle to show them they are appreciated.
What about a gift card along with a handwritten card to express your gratefulness? Those intermittent expressions of appreciation go a long way. Give her a raise if you can, but also give her random 'bonuses' when it is in your budget to do so.
I am eager to hear what others say about this. Child care providers really are underpaid!
I think that a special gift sounds like a wonderful idea! If you really want to do something special or "pay more" and can't afford to what about a childcare swap? You said she's a mother also so are there maybe times you could take her LO or her children to give her a total break from kids? I'm thinking maybe you keep her kids one or two nights a month for free to give her a night out/off or a day out and that be part of her pay/bonus. I'm sure it'd be totally appreciated and honestly take the pressure off of the low pay by her "making" the money it would have cost her to have a day/night or two off each month.
Michelle mom to DD , DS , & lil DD and spending my days