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My little girl was one in April. To try and cut a long story short, towards the end of my pregnancy i developed a perineal abcess which midwifes kept miss diagnosing. Therefore it got much worse, pain was unbearable, i could hardly sit down and resulted in me being put to sleep to have drained then packed. i went back to work after 5 months bawling.gif - didn't have much choice. I think these two factors contributed to some of my problems now! Little lady had quite a few bad colds from about 5-9 months old, projectile vomiting, stuffy nose etc, which terrified me to leave her in her cot in case she choked. She is a very active alert baby (like most i know). She doesn't really sleep in the day (childminders say sometimes an hour at the most) occasionally she will sleep a couple of hours at weekend with me. 

 

She usually wont go to sleep until about 8 sometimes 9 or even 10 at night. And ****l wakes for milk - (bottle fed on whole milk) i worry she isnt getting enough sleep. Last night i did the usual bath quiet play and bottle and she actually fell asleep at 7:00pm to wake at about 7:30pm wide awake and wanting to play. 

 

For the first time last night (after she had woken up) i gave her some quiet play time before i tried again. I took her upstairs to her room (8:00pm) and started to read her a story. She was too busy messing in her cot - standing up etc. So i didn't make much contact with her just sat by her cot. I then placed her milk in her cot to which she picked up and began to drink. She drank half then continued to play. At 8:45 she picked milk up again so i kept lying her down. She then drank all her milk and kept sitting up and whinging. (She had her music playing) I kept shushing her and rubbing her back and she finally dropped off at 9:00pm.

 

She then woke at 11:55 crying. I wont lie i gave up and she ended up in my bed. Simply as i dont know what to do. Dont know whether to sit by the crib, whether to give her more milk (she is drinking far too much in the night) She is a fab eater in the day time. 

Any advice on training her to fall asleep on her own would be great. Im really not one of these who can dump her in her cot and let her cry it out like alot of people are advising me. 

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The No Cry Sleep Solution is a good book to check out. It sounds like the bottle isn't helping her sleep anymore, so it might be a good idea to break that association. Letting her fall asleep with the bottle can increase the risk of cavities.

If it gets bad enough, can you get your pediatrician to refer you to a child sleep specialist? It does sound like she may not be getting enough sleep. Sleep begets sleep, so bad night sleep and bad napping go together. Our baby didn't sleep or nap well until we could let him sleep as long as he wanted. Im guessing thats not an option for you. Our baby just won't go to sleep at a reasonable hour, which does fit some sleep disorders so if it doesn't fix itself well have to figure that out.

We haven't found a solution. We've had to stop letting him fall asleep between 7 and 9:30 because he won't stay asleep and goes to bed even later. It was really bad when we had to leave at 8am- he wasn't getting enough sleep, napped badly, and refused to fall asleep before midnight.

One suggestion is to make sure she gets exposed to bright SUNLIGHT when she wakes up as often as possible. Direct (not through the window) if you can. This can help her body's clock set itself. Also, keep the lights in the house dim after about 6pm. We've never had a schedule that allowed the former easily, and the latter doesn't work for us, but hopefully it will. As long as there's nothing seriously wrong, her body should naturally adjust according to the day and night, so a dose of sunlight in the morning says "it's time to wake up" and keepiNg it low light at night is saying "it's time to wind down". There are people whose body's clock aligns wrong, though, which is much harder to fix.

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Thank you so much for your quick response! Sounds like you have been through it all. The sun light suggestion is a great idea! I think i need a black out blind for summer when its ****l very light.
Thats like my little one, she can start to nod off then BAM she is wide awake and wanting to play at 11pm. Last night i sat her in her cot and sat beside the cot and made little contact as possible with her.she seemed to tire herself out and felt safe enough to nod off as i was there. Does your little one let you leave him to go sleep alone? Thanks again
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No, but we don't really feel the need for him to right now. The closest is that he'll fall asleep while curled up next to us without someone actually holding him. We've never tried a crib because the bassinet went virtually unused. When he was going down well, he would fall asleep on a baby mattress and be fine sleeping alone for a few hours, but one of us would have to get him to sleep. He's also started napping on the couch, which I don't know how to feel about, but as long as one of us is there to make sure he doesn't smother, whatever it takes to get a 3 hour nap.

 

He seems to have mastered the cat nap at a young age, he gets a short nap and has energy to last for hours. We;re doing really bad right now, I think we've got a molar incoming. For awhile sleep was pretty decent, though, we had a good routine and he'd sometimes fall asleep within five minutes.

 

The blinds are definitely a good idea. We blocked out most of the light (not all of it, but most of it) and that definitely seems to've helped. He ****l wakes up not long after sunrise, but it's just because he ****l needs a night feed. We've tried reducing it, and he'll just fuss until we give him a full feed.

 

ETA: Why is "****l" being bleeped out?


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How old is your little one now if you don't mind me asking? This is how we have been. We have always co-slept with our little one which i know alot say is dangerous etc. But it has literally been the only way we could all get some sleep. The last couple of weeks she has been real fidgety which has made me think after some careful sleep training and support she could be ready for her own cot. She never went in a moses basket or cot she just wouldn't sleep so from days old she has been in bed with me. My mum used to go mad.  The last couple of weeks at times i have ended up climbing in her cot just to get her to go sleep with me. Are you ****l breastfeeding? She insists on a bottle of milk in the night - i have tried water and she ****l drinks it. Think its a comfort thing - she has never had a dummy. 

Not sure why that is bleeped out? What should it say? 

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Ah just seen you are also a formula feeder. I did try to breast feed at the start but with being so ill i only last four days. I don't think my little one has suffered though! 

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I have no idea why "****l" is bleeped out... I looked up "s.t.i.l" (without the periods) and I'm not finding anything dirty. I'm going to reply via PM, okay?


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Sounds good to me :-)

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How is it going!? 

 

Did the word that was getting bleeped out come back. I know other people were having trouble with this type of thing too!


 
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