I would love to see a "working Mom's" board!
So often a WOHM/WAHM posts a concern for other working moms to offer advice, and the SAHM's put there own thoughts in and often times makes the WOHM/WAHM feel guilty with their bashing *you cant be AP, you work!
*. mothers have enough to deal with without the added bull. Staying at home doesnt make you a better mother, and neither does working. either you are good, or you arent. my sister in law has been home for 16 yrs, and both her kids are total mental midgets, my niece being a little sleeze and smokes heroin, and my nephew being a complete emotional and intellectual midget. she is a perfect example of what not to do. and yet, i have seen examples on the other side...WOHM kids who are left to their own devices, sometimes only find disaster.
I work parttime out of the home as an ER nurse. i love it, and i dont feel guilty for a second. i often work at night when everyone is asleep, and am home and available all day to my three kids. i sleep when my little guy is in nursery school, or when my teenager comes home from school, i rest. About the guilt, i dont think there is a mom alive that hasnt felt that way, be it SAHM or WOHM. i think it comes with the territory. Alot of it, i feel, is felt because of conflicting and ambivalent feelings. meaning, if you really want to be at home and cant, you feel guilty, if you are at home and want to work, you might feel guilty. if you are *happy* with either choice you might feel guilty!
I had a biting incident when my middle chilkd was at great grandmas. my cousins little girl was terribly jealous of my infant son, and would bite him visciously. i wanted to kill her. here he was in his little seat, minding his own business, and my cousins 2 year old would bite him all over his neck and chest, drawing blood. i finally called my cousin and told her. it was tense, but i couldnt allow it to happen. my poor grandma, who was never without my babe in her arms felt awful. my cousins child also had a specch delay, i fell adding to her frustration. it finally stopped, but man, was i pissed. i wouldnt be as graceful as you!!
right now, i am not using childcare. i do not count the 2 1/2 hrs 3x a week as daycare. 4 years ago when the sh*t hit the fan for us financially, we used child care 2 days a week, every other week, for a toltal of 4 days a month. it cost me $80 per day. But tis woman was amazing, onky had my child, her 4 year old and another toddler. she always had nicholas in her arms, adn even used a sling! i loved her so, and i slept peacefully for the 5 hours baby nick was in her care. ultimately, we sold our too expensive home, and moved to CO where i didnt have to work nearly as much. i am now in school full time (one night a week) with the hopes of becoming a Family Nurse Practitioner (FNP).
any time you want to vent, go ahead! i am here along with all the other devoted, loving and thoughtful working moms!!!