Thanks for everyone's replies.
I saw my naturopath last week, actually got teary in her office. I was really discouraged, because I could only see either taking more time away from family, or losing sleep. And I am already soooo tired.
She helped me to figure out some very simple changes that seem to be working. She's very perceptive, so immediately understood that any kind of complex plan was going to pop my head off! Here it is. Eat more protein at breakfast, less carbs at lunch, take ONE supplement (for adrenals) and get up early in the AM for a walk.
I have not been sleeping well. (DD is nightweaned, and now rarely needs bfing in the morning. We cosleep, but mostly only because I fall asleep putting her to bed. She is fine sleeping and waking alone now at 3.5 yrs.) ND convinced me that taking 30 mins away from sleeping to exercise or just take time for me will lead to better overall sleep and energy.
And she's right! I feel like a new woman! I can sleep! I have energy! I have patience for DD and DH! I set my alarm for 6:15, throw on sweats, make a quick cup of green tea in my travel mug, grab my CD player, then watch the sun rise (for a few more weeks anyways). I get home just as DD is waking up. She's OK to know that I might not be in the house when she wakes up - tho I have been, in fact she's sleeping a bit longer - always good. I'm enjoying really LISTENING to music again too!
We'll have to wait and see if this actually helps my weight. But I FEEL somuch better. Hey, I think I'm my own success story!