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Hi, bamboomama. This was us a year ago--we were both students, and we traded off childcare between two of us. It worked out really well for us--it's a bit of a logistical headache, and we were certainly short on time, but ds really did get the best of both parents, I think.
You're not screwed, not by a long shot. A couple ideas (there are lots more out there, of course, once the search function is back up):
--this early in the bf relationship, what I did was put an extra pumping session in at roughly the same time in the mornings, whether or not I was going to be gone that day. This meant I got a freezer stash built up pretty quickly, and that I wasn't stressed if on one particular day I didn't get much milk from a pumping session. Later on, I could get away with pumping 3 times a week without it making my supply go haywire.
--I second the Playtex "natural latch" nipple (with slow flow !!). I really like their milk storage system as well--it uses disposable "bladders." While not as environmentally friendly as glass, it also doesn't contain the bisphenol-A that the hard clear plastics (like Dr. Brown's or Avent) do.
--You should plan on disappearing for a little while while dh feeds dd. What dh found that worked well:
--Try feeding in a sling or other carrier. Something about the contact made ds a lot happier about taking a bottle. On a couple occasions, dh took off his shirt and stripped ds down to a diaper and put him in the sling, and that worked really well too.
--Let dd play a little with the nipple. Woo rather than force! Your dh shouldn't expect dd to drink a lot the first couple times (or even the first week or two). Really, you're just trying to get her used to the idea that milk can come from a plastic nipple. Your dh should tease dd's mouth with the nipple, just like you would to get a good latch on the boob.
--Try feeding before your dd is starving. Make sure she's dry, happy, etc, before introducing the bottle. The verge of a meltdown is not the time to try it.
Good luck! I heartily recommend that your dh get a sling that he's really comfortable using for the times you'll be away. If nothing else, dh would pop ds in the sling and go for a walk, and it would make him a happy camper.