What one mama said (and others have quoted) about both mom and dad working part-time would really be ideal. I got a taste of it, when I was off because of a holiday and DD was home in between appointments, and it was really nice. He gave me the little bit of break that I needed and DD was thrilled to see him. But I was still looking forward to going back the next day.
Like other mamas, I need the mental stimulation. If I wasn't working for pay, I would have to do something, volunteer, take a class, something. I was a SAHM this past summer as there were no classes available for me to teach. Part of it I enjoyed but many times I was soooo ready to go back.
But ask me again in 6 mos, I might have a totally different answer.
s education, I have money to do what I want and I feel like an all around happier person.
disclaimer: not trying to imply this is how it would be for anyone else. just my personal experience
have mixed feelings, as my transition from SAHM is WOHM is very recent. However, I think DD and I are both better off with some time away from each other at present. I do think that 50 hours a week is TOO much time, though.
grateful mother to DD, 1/04, and DS, 2/08
grateful mother to DD, 1/04, and DS, 2/08
Even though we cold live on one salary, I like the extras the second salary provides, not to mention the savings for retirement and education costs. I am not a scrimper.
Jen Mama of 2 precious boys (9) (6) and still in with my Matt after 12 years together.
Domestic Violence Children's Advocate and Counselor
I was surprised at how much I enjoyed my maternity leave - thought I'd go crazy out of work like that, but I didn't. I loved it. So, I think I'd enjoy being home fulltime until the kiddos are preschool age - then go to part-time. Not a reality for us right now, but DH is home days while I'm at work as we're on opposite shifts.
If I could, I would definitely work part time, but I am not sure if it is in my or my children's best interest to stay home. I know that sounds weird, but ds1 gets such varied activities and time with other children his age by going to a home daycare and sees his cousin (attends the same day care) on a regular basis.
To sum up, I guess I would still work, I truly like aspects of working, but I would work less hours if I could...
I love the summers off, but being a full time SAHM during our long winters might make me crazy. So, we're working toward our goal of an every-other-day schedule before our next child...
C.- WOHM, CPST Instructor, and all around busy Mama to A.- 02/04, I. 01/07,E. 09/10 and
expecting the surprise of our lives Fall 2012!
My dh has a somewhat flexible schedule and can WAH much of the time, but he can't really focus on her needs while he's working, so that doesn't help all that much in the daycare department. I don't know how WAHM/D's do it! (My hat's off to ya'll.)
I'd like to homeschool her; with a little luck, that might be possible by the time she reaches school age. I think I would still want a pt professional position, though, because it's important to me that she grows up knowing that girls can have jobs and careers, etc etc. If I leave my position for too long, it will be hard to find a good spot when I'm ready to come back -- I'll be obsolete!
I can't imagine being bored as a SAHM, so that's not an issue for me. I love watching little kids grow and explore the world. I'd probably end up as dcp myself if I were SAH. OTH, I've only had short periods of time to SAH, so maybe I just don't realize yet what I would be getting myself into!
Ideally though I would LOVE to work part time- either half days or 3 days a week. And my mother would watch the kids. That would make me the happiest mama around!
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