However, as soon as I open the door and she sees me, she throws herself on the floor and bursts into tears. She cries like her heart is breaking, until I pick her up, and then she continues to cry for about thirty seconds, and then it's over and she smiles at me, and she waves bye-bye and blows kisses to her teacher, and we leave.
So what is this all about? Is it just a release of tension? Has she been absolutely stressed out all day, wondering if I'm ever going to come to pick her up, and when she finally sees me it's such a relief to her that she loses control? That thought really bums me out. And she really does seem happy...her teacher says she's fine, she plays, she giggles, she smiles...So why the histronics when I pick her up?
It makes me sad...anyone else's baby do this?
By the way, she's 17 months old.
She is most likely not stressed about being there if she is happy and eating well while she is at daycare. She is probably upset that you are interrupting her playtime with her friends and she doesn't want to leave.
But yes, I agree, it can be disconcerting.
The truest answer to violence is love. The truest answer to death is life. The only prevention for violence is for the heart to have no violence within it. We cannot prevent evil through any system devised by mankind. But we can grapple with evil and defeat it, but only with love—real love.
Its probably what your little one is feeling, that huge sense of RELIEF, and utter JOY.
I guess it is just a rush of emotions that she can't quite deal with yet.
She stays with her grandparents the other three days of the week and she's never done this when I pick her up there--but then again, they've been keeping her while I work since she was four months old, so it's old hat to her now!
Now, it is very apparent that he is very happy to see me. He usually doesn't cry anymore. He runs for me, but if anything gets in his way it is instant tears till he is in my arms.
1. A friend of my mother's, who is a psychologist and mother of 2, made a comment when ds was quite young that children often have difficulty in transitions between caregivers. Kind of a momentary, "Who's in charge?!" when they have to move from the care of one person to the care of another. I've never seen this theory mentioned elsewhere but I've often felt it might be valid in some cases.
2. I know my ds is uncomfortable saying he loves me and he loves his babysitter, although I know he does, so maybe he feels he's being disloyal. I try to let him know I love his babysitter.