I just started a nanny-swap a few eeks ago with another mom down the block. We met at the community ctr playgroup, and when I mentioned that I needed dd to 'be somewhere else, like, 3 days a week - and NOT a daycare" she said she wanted to take care of a child 3 days a week. we got togteher to see how the girls got along, and in the course of our afternoon, I doiscovered that she was going to put HER dd in daycare the other 3 days a week so she could work.
I was like ?!
?! ...'why don't I take your dd every second day, then I won't have to pay YOU and you won't have to put her in daycare" ?
So, three days aweek now I have a full work day; plus evenings to do emails etc. The other 3 days, I spend hours toolin' around in the park or at the beach; going to the library or aquarium, picnicking, etc with the girls
Because My WAHM schedule is so flexible, and Jen's work schedule is flexible, we can change plans on each other at the drop of a hat. It is GREAT. I am so fortunate! We approximate an 8-hour trade but often she calls and says her dd is off with her dad and I don't need to take her. I also often call her and tell her "gramma and grampa are taking Raven, so don't worry about it today" etc..
Before, it was like I was always putting dd off so I could squeeze in ten mins of work; making mistakes cuz I couldn't focus, getting resentful of dd's needs and also not getting ANY housework done.
Now, on my work days; I drop dd off and come home, have a coffee and do some emails; then I go into the sewing room while dh puts on some LOUD, forbidden tunes and I just GO. I can also do sewing supply shopping, PO runs, etc and not have to drag dd along and bore her to death; I KNOW she's out having a blast with Jen and Bijou. She comes home at about 5-ish and then we have dinner, do a bath, play or read awhile then off to bed with dd.
I am still working out my rhythm, like getting it all done, but it's really turning out well.