Join Date: Nov 2002
Location: lorrie in Chicago
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She is in freak out mode again.
I think the girl I work with has some kind of paranoid fixation on me. It is really hard to deal with - she interprets everything I do so strangely (and hostilely) and/or makes little stuff up (that she seems to believe). We work in a really small office, just three graduate assistants (the other ga is her good firend), and we work for my dissertation director, so it is very stressful. And I am spending WAY to much time thinking about it. I think her paranoia is even making me paranoid! (I'll be taking to a department colleague and start wondering what she's said to them about me; I'll be writing an office e-mail and start rewriting it 10 times, trying to phrase things in such a way that won't lead to one of her weird overreactions).
I don't know what to do. Any advice will be approciated.
She literally fabricated a "problem" I supposedly caused a couple months ago, but mostly it is just her interpretating everything I do as 1) my trying to take change, 2) my causing some kind of problem (usually by my trying to take charge) or 3) my assuming she isn't doing her job. I've tried not dealing with her - but that is now causing her to accuse me of doing things behind her back and/or of causing problems by not letting her know stuff in time (there is one thing I should have let her know earlier - but i was dreading e-mailing her cause I knew she would freak out and the consequence of not letting her know in time was very minor.)
help. i have no idea what to do. My dissertation director is sort of aware of the situation cause the girl keeps going to her to complain about me (and diss director thinks there may be a mental problem with coworker - we talked about it when the fabricated problem happened a couple months ago), but diss director mostly doesn't want to have to deal with it. I do worry that some of my coworker's tales to my dissertation director will be belived.