So now, after much back-and-forth, I am returning four days (all but Friday) from July 7 to mid August. I might be able to stretch that untiil Sept. 1 but no later. Then it's back all five days. Meanwhile, I'm on three wait-lists and am hoping my sitter will offer me a flat fee. But I'm just so sad that I'll be away from Elias every day!
I work the MWR schedule, but my hours are PT...I surely wish you luck!
Oh, and to answer your question, UmmNuh, the VP made this decision because two women gave birth in May and one had asked for a flex schedule. He rejected her and she wrote a letter saying it was unfair that the policy seemed inconsistent. I mean, they could have easily granted her request, because my job is 99% web based, and so is hers. Communication is via email and IM. It would've been so easy! But no, they said no to her and then said I needed to stop!
Thanks to you both for responding with such kind words.
Honest to god, they (by which I mean HR--my boss was livid about this) expected me to show up the very next day. They didn't allow me any kind of grace period to find childcare for my 4-month-old baby. I was devastated, and if we hadn't been in the middle of buying a new house, I would have just quit. Luckily, I had previously scheduled a week of vacation for that month, so I took that time off and told my boss I was going to be "sick" for another few days. Then, coincidentally, my father-in-law got laid off and agreed to keep Mallory during the day. And my boss pretty much let me choose my hours; I worked 7-2:30 for a while, and now I do four long days and have every Friday off, which I like even better.
Anyway, that's my long sad story. It's really awful when your place of employment jerks you around like that. I hope that the new job works out for you and that you can find childcare for your baby.
edited for clarity!
I guess that, for now, I feel lucky enough to work in a company that has no HR dept. We have a consultant, but the co. is so small, they have not yet decided that our own HR person would be cost-effective. AND, I am the lone marketing wolf in a company full of scientists. They HAVE TO be in the labs to do their jobs, where a lot of what I do is web-based, and I set my own priorities for the most part, while they really have to follow a strict schedule.
In addition, I got this job/took this job because the boss is a friend. I am working for well below market value, and he knows this as well as I. I have a baby on the way, and I fully intend to bring the babe to the office with me when I have my office hours, until baby needs more action. And then...I guess I'll change my schedule and work afternoons or something, so dh can do more childcare and we can afford for me to work. Boy...that makes it sound so silly.
Anyway, I can only hope that some lab tech doesn't get any ideas about what's fair and what's not. I love the WAH option.
Maybe you should let Working Mother magazine know about your situation....when you are about to leave, of course.
T Which law school does your husband attend? My brother-in-law just finished his first year at NYU law.
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I have every intention of communicating regularly with my boss--and the HR consultant--about exactly WHAT I manage to get done while I am at home, so that everyone "gets it" just a little more.
This is supposed to be the direction work is moving, kwim? This is the kind of progress our moms, and women who opted out of becoming moms, worked so hard for. It makes me MAD when it's so easily disregarded by people who don't see the whole picture. Grr...
your post really hit home with me too, as i was sitting here holding the phone trying to decide if today is the day that i talk to my manager about revising my work schedule. I don't have to go back until sept. 29, but i want to set a flex schedule ... and see if they agree ... it is so stressful! this way if they don't agree, i will have some time to decide what we will do instead.
good luck to you and I hope it all works out!
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