* Is she in a mixed-age classroom? What are the ages?The children in the room are between 15 months and 24 months
* What's the teacher/child ratio?There are 6-8 children, one teacher, and one aide
3. I know it sounds backwards - but anyway to get a MWF schedule instead?Unfortunately, no.
Well...today was her 4th day(she only goes T/Th) and it's not going well. I usually just spend a few minutes with her when I drop her off, but today I spent about an hour and a half with her first, to see if that helped any. She mostly just wanted to nurse and look around. When I left, she became hysterical as usual(her teacher consoled her), and I went to the bathroom and then went back to spy on her. She was no longer crying, but was alone in the corner of the yard. I watched her for about 20 minutes, and she cried for a minute a couple times, and just stood there alone the whole time.
When I went to get her in the afternoon, the other kids were eating their snack at the table and she was alone off to the side, looking like she was about to cry, as usual. I went over to hug her and nurse her, and the teacher came over to talk. She said that my daughter had had a rough day--implied that she was basically unhappy all day. She then said that there were a few problems she needed to talk about. First, she said, she noticed that I was nursing her a lot in the morning, and she thinks that this is related to the fact that my daughter has a habit of wanting to get up during meals to do something and then go back to the table. She thinks that I'm confusing her by nursing her on and off and causing her to not be able to sit still for her lunch. And next, she wants me to cover up while I'm nursing her there, in the presence of males, as there was a dad there and she "wasn't sure how he felt." I mentioned that she doesn't really put up with being covered up, and the teacher said then I can find somewhere to go to nurse. She also mentioned that staying so long this morning didn't help, and each time I have asked how long my daughter cried when going to sleep, she has dodged around the question.
After we left the room, I went to speak with the director about changing rooms because my daughter is so miserable. She basically said that I should wait a month to see how it goes, and that it wasn't an option to transfer to another room. She asked if my daughter had seen me when I was spying(I assured her that she hadn't), and she mentioned that my daughter's teacher had griped to her, "Is she still out there?"(about me). She then asked if I had thought of weaning, and again asserted that most children this age are no longer nursing, and suggested that nursing her may be preventing her from being able to form an attachment to her teacher and the other kids.
So, with all of this antagonism toward me, I feel totally uncomfortable with this place and I'm going to try to figure out another childcare situation.
The only other childcare option at this point is a friend/former roommate of ours who has a daughter the same age, who I think would be willing to watch my daughter. She's pretty AP and my daughter loves her, but the only things that bother me are her discipline methods...she's not very mindful of how she disciplines, and yells, gets impatient, and threatens timeouts sometimes. She also, understandably, favors her daughter a bit more than I'm comfortable with. But I feel like anything would really be better than what we've got now, and I know her well enought to discuss the discipline stuff with her.
Anyway...I was wanting to wait it out, but this daycare center just does not feel right.