I would ask about:
- safety issues: baby proofing, ages of other children, who else might help to watch the children, carseats, outings, etc. Having read protecting the gift I would also ask if the provider is willing to provide a police report, ask if the provider has ever hit or abused a child, ask about other caregivers or adults that might be in the house, older children, etc. (I asked everyone I interviewed if they had ever abused a child and I was awed at how much you can tell from the response... no one had ever been asked that before either, not even our daycare/Montessori where I asked if any staff had ever hit or abused a child there.)
- the best question from de Becker for discipline stuff is - I forget the wording but something like "tell me about a situation where you had to discipline a child and what you did" - what the problem was will tell you as much as how it was handled
- daycare policies (what happens when people are sick - your child, the provider, the provider's children, etc.; lateness; feeding; diapering; etc.)
- overall approach it sounds like you've covered, but questions around will the baby be held/worn, naps, etc.
I would also ask some questions ahead like how the provider handles it when the baby starts walking and exploring and throwing food.
~ Mum to Emily, March 12-16 2004, Noah, born Aug 2005, Liam, born January 2011, and wife to Carl since 1994. ~