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So, my 4.75 yo looks at me the other day (after a week out of school) and asks if she could just skip the rest of pre-school and go right to kindy.
It's a lovely day care and pre-school, but they hired a terrible teacher for their one room of 4 year olds, she rigid, shaming, bossy and doesn't even appear to like kids, no ECE and I think she's pursuing a biology degree. This doesn't appear to be her thing. I discussed this once with the director after she said "What are you three? Take your hands out of your mouth." at lunch and after another incident. Day Care director indicated that they are working with her and she'd had complaints about the rigidity and bossiness but the shaming was the first she'd heard.
I'm now realizing that my girls attitude and everything that been so troublesome is imitating this behavior from school. The teacher comes from a culture where children are spoken to in 1-way, but they are not supposed to respond in that way to adults. This is NOT how the day care is generally run (very respectful) nor how our house is run.
So, I'm actually thinking that I should find a new place for 7-8 months - Jan through August when she'll start school. I asked the 4 yo if she would miss her friends etc. She says no and she wants to learn to read anyway. I'm not even sure if this is possible or how she will integrate into another pre-school where the kids have probably been going since the beginning of the year or longer. I guess she'd be OK - she's very outgoing, if a little bossy. Generally talks to kids easily and adults with no problem. It just seems such a difficult situation. I haven't even called any places yet so I don't know if this is possible.
What do you guys think? A phase she'll get over? Or dire cry for help? She was just so sincere and articulate and I had been thinking about my options. I don't think the teacher is capable of the kind of change required. I think she was a bad hire, but I have an idea what they were trying to get at when they hired her.
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