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My son recently turned 1. His seperation anxiety has increased dramatically (he's always been fairly attached to just me) and I am afraid the dcp may ask me to find other care. What I am trying to explain to her is that he has recently had a lot of changes in his dcp recently and that he needs time to adjust. Here's the timeline.

7.5 months- started daycare
11 months- my sister was his nanny for what was suppose to be a 1 yr. gig
12 months- started a new daycare.

I tried a slower transition this time-- a couple of long visits with me and 2 days of just a few hours. Yesterday he was unhappy. Not really crying, but whining all day. His care provider carried him in her arms all day and if she put him down he would scream (I'm going to offer my carrier next week..) She has 2 other babies to care for. My DP stayed home 1/2 day today and I stayed home 1/2 day b/c we couldn't stand sending him knowing he was so sad. It isn't feasible for either of us to continue to use sick time (or go to 1 income.) Interestingly, since he started he has come home and played happily while we made dinner--previously he would only want me to hold him?


so, I am looking for ways to make it easier on my son and the daycare? Thanks
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I was just curious whether you thought there could be some other explanation for his behavior besides separation anxiety. Many children are teething quite a bit around this age, and this can make them quite irritable and fussy. Could there be a physical reason like this for his behavior. I agree it would be challenging for the dcp but it is also probably a temporary situation. Most kids move through this type of phase fairly readily when they have consistent, loving support.

 
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I was just curious whether you thought there could be some other explanation for his behavior besides separation anxiety. Many children are teething quite a bit around this age, and this can make them quite irritable and fussy. Could there be a physical reason like this for his behavior. I agree it would be challenging for the dcp but it is also probably a temporary situation. Most kids move through this type of phase fairly readily when they have consistent, loving support.
I have considered that and have treated the symptoms the best that I am able. I think they contribute to his fussiness, but wonder if there is more to it? I am just curious as to what anxiety looks like and how others help their child through the separation anxiety phase?
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When did he start daycare? Is he happy as long as he is being held?
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