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#1 of 5 Old 02-19-2008, 08:49 PM - Thread Starter
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A couple of weeks ago my boss, who is in the National Guard, found out he was being deployed. My husband called me to tell me (he works at the same office) because I had just started to work late shift so I was not at work. He (and frankly I) were under the impression that I was going to get the promotion to replace him because I do most of the work (I do in a day - what three people often do in a week) - and am on top of everything - much more that the boss was. Well, when I got to work, he never told me he was even leaving and actually to this day he hasn't. He just said something was going on and he was tired of talking about it. I didn't see him for the rest of the week because he would leave early. There are only two of us that worked under him and he gave it to the other girl. Which, happened to be his friend, and that is how she got the job in the first place.

So, she ended up telling me that she got the promotion and I was shocked. I didn't say anything about it though. I figured I would just let it go - it wasn't meant to be.

Well, my husband just told me yesterday that he was so angry about it he called my boss and asked him why he did not promote me. He said it was because he didn't think I would want to do the extra work because I am pregnant and have a daughter. He acted like everything was fine on the phone, then he complained to my husband's boss, trying to get him in trouble, saying that he was trying to influence his decision.

I was letting it go before. I felt wronged because I knew I deserved the promotion but didn't get it. But, now I feel even more wronged because of his reasons and because he tried to get my husband in trouble. Plus, to this day he didn't tell me he promoted the other girl or is leaving. I wanted to call him
but my husband asked me not to. What would you do?
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#2 of 5 Old 02-19-2008, 09:24 PM
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That's illegal discrimination, federally for sure and likely at the state level as well (depending on where you live). Pregnancy is clearly a protected class. Your state may also protect family status.

I suggest you give the EEOC office by you a call.

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Thank you for your answer ProtoLawyer. : I was wondering if I was over-reacting.

If I decide to do that should I go to HR first? I have decided to quit. My husband will be getting out of the military soon, so, we want to move. I felt like not getting a promotion was a sign that we should get out of Georgia. Is this something I can pursue after I already left the company? Will future employers find out if I complain. My husband said I shouldn't because I would be "burning bridges."
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Contact the EEOC. (Equal employment opportunity commission.) Ask them how to proceed.

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It was all fine until he made that comment to your husband about the pregnancy. Yes, you should contact HR and make a formal complaint. The EEOC will want to know why you didn't if you don't. That shouldn't stop you from filing with the EEOC but do give the employer the opportunity to make things right. One manager's stupidity doesn't necessarily mean that the company itself won't want to do the right thing.

Retaliation for making a complaint is as illegal as the primary discrimination so you should not let the fear of getting a bad rap for complaining deter you from reporting the incident.
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