I'm on there maybe about once every week to ten days.. I like it to check in on friends in other areas, see what they are up to, pics of their artwork, kids, whatever, on occasion. Mostly I just wind up logging in when I get an email notification that I have received a message, and use it as a convenient hub to read and reply to messages/letters. I much prefer the personal message feature to any of the shorter, more random commenting features like the "wall" or commenting on photos. Sometimes I sort of feel weird because most of my "facebook friends" are people from high school or whatever that I have nothing in common with and no real reason to talk to, but they are my "friends" and can check up on my profile. So, I want to have it as a space where I can post my artwork and photos and updates on occasion and exchange an occasional message with friends, but it seems hard to feel comfortable using it in that way when it's also this big impersonal network of everyone I've ever crossed paths with, yk? Some days I just want to delete all those "friends" that I haven't see or heard from in years, because really why are they on there? Then maybe I'd use it more often and as a place to consolidate my interactions and updates with friends and family. But then I feel bad deleting everyone because people think that means something and "deleting someone" is such an offensive thing to do in our society lol.. what a weird world. And really, it's not like I lack other means to talk with those I really want to talk with. So I pretty much just avoid it day to day and log on when I have a specific purpose there.
I agree also with those who said that there are some people you just don't want to find you.. not in a bad way, just that it feels sort of contrived to strike up these two sentence encounters with people from the past, and the alternative, having them as "friends" but never really interacting anyways, makes me feel like what is the point!? I have a busy and meaningful life (and am quite happy to have moved on past the trauma of high school lol), and I guess I get more out of using the internet for message board type stuff, exchanging ideas with others who may be "strangers" but who have valuable perspectives and ideas within a certain context (i.e. shared experiences or values- this board for mothering, vegan/vegetarian forums, etc.) as well as lengthier personal exchanges with people who hold a meaningful place in my life, rather than exchanging messages with someone based on random or superficial traits (being born in the same year and winding up at the same large public school etc.) Without a meaningful shared context or topic to discuss, exchanges based on such insignificant overlap of a short span of time or geography seem pointless.
"You must be the change you wish to see in the world"
DS Feb 2009