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#1 of 15 Old 01-21-2009, 02:37 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Sooooo to make a long story short we started renting an apt 5 months ago. I consider us pretty good tenants, the landlord's have never complained to us about our goings on..we pay on time, or for several months at a time, are quiet , not much company and so on and so forth.

Anyway on Sunday the landlord left a message on the machine that she needed to talk to us. I am all freaked out, thinking what did we do lol, did they see the kitchen mess or something that I left before I went out. I'm a paranoid person

Turns out no problem with us but they are selling the house. This is a 3 family home. She said that if they do sell legally we have a 30-90 day window in which to leave as far as new landlords go. The new landlords can't just make us leave yada yada.

But they will be showing the house, including the apartment. We will have a days warning before a person comes to look at the house. It has me on edge really. I'm just not into having people in my space. I hate it, and while I am not the messiest person on the planet I am not a domestic goddess either, meaning YES, there are some toys on my floor right now, yes my kitchen counter isn't spotless at the moment. I feel like I have that added stress of making the place 'perfect' because my apartment will be on display for random strangers.

Lastly we homeschool , and while I 'could arrange to not be here when they show it, I would have to have someone babysit my cats for that time@@. I shouldn't be concerned about a mid-day visit and the homeschooling but I am because sometimes that choice simply freaks people out and they can and do cause issues for homeschoolers.

The whole entire situation is really bugging me on top of the fact that we simply don't know whether we have to move or not. We basically have to sit on our hands and wait not just for a buyer, but wait to find out if the buyer wants to rent to us, family, or someone else. It's all up in the air.

Not to mention if we do have to move it will be our 5th move in 8 years!!!

It's very frustrating. Has anyone else ever been in this position before or willing to share their experience. I would be grateful to hear stories

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I've been there, but I ended up moving before the house sold. I couldn't stand the constant barrage of people coming over to look at my space. The real estate agent and my landlord gave me a day's notice, but I still stressed about my personal things. I also had two dogs, so I had to make arrangements to get them out of the house, which wasn't easy as I was in school at the time and couldn't always be there. Its not like selling your own house, where its in your best interest to show it as much as possible. Its an inconvenience.

Sorry I don't have anything positive to say. Moving was a PITA, but I didn't love the apartment anyway.

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I've been there, but I ended up moving before the house sold. I couldn't stand the constant barrage of people coming over to look at my space. The real estate agent and my landlord gave me a day's notice, but I still stressed about my personal things. I also had two dogs, so I had to make arrangements to get them out of the house, which wasn't easy as I was in school at the time and couldn't always be there. Its not like selling your own house, where its in your best interest to show it as much as possible. Its an inconvenience.

Sorry I don't have anything positive to say. Moving was a PITA, but I didn't love the apartment anyway.

Thank you...it sounds like a very similar experience. My closets are a mess right now! I don't think about organizing my closets everyday, I just focus on making the house clean you know, but it's stuff like that...making even my cup boards organized , putting away my valuables all this type of thing that has me really on edge right now. At first I was really upset at the prospect of having to move again etc etc. At the moment and for the past couple of days I have just been tense+po'd. We are seriously considering the same thing, moving before the barrage (and w/ the housing market the way it is who knows how long we will have to deal with this!, I would almost prefer they sell it next week, at least this way we would know and not have to deal with strangers) Ugh and double ugh!

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So is this a triplex? If so, then it is probably considered a "commercial property". If it is a commercial property, the prospective buyers would probably want good renters to stay. I DO know of one family that bought a four plex and asked all of the renters there (save 1 family) to move as soon as was legal, because they wanted to live there themselves (dp's friend, his brother, and sister in law), but usually commercial properties are purchased to be rented and are an income property to the new owners...

so the "showing" may be a pain in the neck, but I think it is more likely that the prospective buyers don't want to interrupt your life,
( considering you are a good renter,) rather than you move out now, and they have to find new renters in the future..

I think this demonstrates the greatest drawback to renting though.. renters are susceptible to the decisions of the owners. There have been plenty of examples here of trailer parks where people had to move thier homes because the trailer park owners got offers on the land that were "too good" to ignore..
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You sound a lot like me Larksong. I just can't stand the idea of strangers poking around in my house. It makes me feel so uncomfortable! As renters we occasionally have had the landlord pop in, or send a work crew over unnanounced and it just leaves me rattled. But just remember, they aren't there to judge you or your household, they have homes of their own that probably have toys on the floor, too! I bet the details of your home don't even register with them. At least that's what I told myself las week when a crew of furnace repairmen worked all morning in the basement where my bras were hanging out in plain sight (so mortifying!!)

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I wouldn't worry about the homeschooling too much. We were homeschooling when we had our house on the market couple of years ago, and it wasn't a big deal at all. Sometimes we stayed, sometimes we left for showings. But homeschooling is totally legal, and no one had any problems with it at all.

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Chances are the new owners will continue things as is - a 3-family home is meant to be rented to a few families.

You are not under obligation to leave so I would stay unless it's a good time to go out for a trip or outing anyway.

Why would you need a catsitter for the 15-20 minutes your part of the house will be shown?

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Most likely, the buyer would want you to stay. However, it probably would be in your best interest to have the apt looking as neat/clean as possible. That way, the prospective buyer will want you to stay as their tenant.

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I've been on the other end of it. DH and I own a couple of rental properties (well technically the bank owns most of it, but when the mortages are paid off we will,) and we have friends who own even more.

Don't worry so much about cleaning every thnig up, we don't care. We want to see the apartment just to make sure it is basically safe and not falling apart. We've even bought places based on photographs and inspectors reports with no visit.

You most likely won't have to move, when a stable tenant comes with an apartment we are happy :, finding new tenants is a huge pain (and the owners got to eat the mortgage, taxes and insurance every month the unit is empty .) A family with kids says stable tenant loud and clear. Since you moved in pretty recently it is unlikely that you are paying below market in rent. As long as the new buyer doesn't plan to move his whole huge extended famly in, you won't have to move.



Another thing to consider, Have you thought about buying the place yourself? You could stay where you are for as long as you want and collect rent on the other units to cover most of the mortgage.

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Thanks everyone for your advice/stories.

We had the first people come today and it reeeeally bugged me.The first guy was alone and just mumbled his way through the place , talking about what changes he's going to make if he bought it etc. Very uncomfortable because you just know we are gone with that guy. The second people were super nice but he came with his elderly parents who seemed very interested in the apartment @@

We have four groups coming tomorrow in the morning. Part of me hates being here when they are here, the other half is simply too uncomfortable with having strangers in my space while I am not home.

I am very unhappy right now. Maybe because I am such an introvert( wish I was an extrovert), but if there is going to be a constant barage of people , I just don't know how to deal with that.

I am very upset too because we had finally settled after the move after the holidays and were really just starting to get back into our school routine. This has us all frazzled(I'm trying not to let my son see how frazzed I am), but he's frazzed too(having people in his room etc)

I feel very violated , irritated and unstable as in :"are we going or staying?". And this is just the first day!!! I wish I wasn't the type that let this sort of thing get to me but it does.

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I live in a four-plex, my landlords sold the place. It's been wonderful! My new landlord does this for a living and our home looks so much better since it's been bought. I hope that it gets sold quickly and peacfully for you and that your family doesn't get disrupted.

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I always felt bad for the people who were renting this house and their landlord sold it to us out from under them. They were home when we saw the house, and they told us about the neighborhood and stuff.

We got such a great deal on the house and I love it, but at the expense of the renters who got booted, life just sucks sometimes. It wasn't your situation though, it was a single family house so they had to go when we moved in.

Some of my friends sold their house, and the people who saw it at it's very messiest were the ones who bought it. (think kid dumped laundry all over the living room floor and then they had to run out to sports practice in a hurry!)
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It happened to us last year. The people who wanted to see the house mainly came in the evenings when we were already home. I did not extra housework for it. None at all. And did not change our routines at all. So if the person happened to come while I was doing dishes, etc, so be it

As it ended up, the buyer kept us as renters because we had a glowing report from the old landlord. Hopefully the same happens for you.

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Most likely, the buyer would want you to stay. However, it probably would be in your best interest to have the apt looking as neat/clean as possible. That way, the prospective buyer will want you to stay as their tenant.
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I hope it's over quickly and you can stay! We rent too and I hate it.

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It happened to us last year. The people who wanted to see the house mainly came in the evenings when we were already home. I did not extra housework for it. None at all. And did not change our routines at all. So if the person happened to come while I was doing dishes, etc, so be it

As it ended up, the buyer kept us as renters because we had a glowing report from the old landlord. Hopefully the same happens for you.

I hope so! This weekend the landlord left a message on the machine to tell us that the realtor said "That we were just so nice" and that they were very grateful for us being so cooperative and thank you thank you.

So hopefully they give us a gold star or whatever for the next buyer.

But honestly this weekend was a bit of nightmare.

I felt like this http://i218.photobucket.com/albums/c...t-want-dog.jpg when the final hour of Saturday's showing was underway and the last knocks were coming to the door.

From 11 am to 2 pm we had a revolving door of people in our apartment. Maybe 20 people in all. At one point there were at least 8 people in our apartment (not including us making it 11!)

Now we were told, a realtor will be by the people etc but when you get up to a full house in a smallish apartment ... no sorry ...you cannot keep track of people. And there were people in every room. At one point my dh was in another room and there was a man in our bedroom opening the closet door and moving stuff around!

Now I am all for attempting to be as zen as humanly possible but there has got to be a line that people don't cross, I mean decent human people. A couple of people asked "Do you mind of we open the closet?"

Yeah I frakking mind but fine. Of course we smile sweetly and say "No not at all go ahead"

But it really upsets me. But common decent people , shouldn't they ask before opening your closet doors and touching your stuff?

It's been more than a walk through , some people are decent, respect us, respect that we are living in an apartment and are here. Other people really poke around and sometimes there are just so many of them, it is hard to keep track. If our valuables were not away I would think it would be impossible at this point to NOT have something stolen and we are home!

After this weekend there is no way we will have a showing without being here. It sucked. a lot

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