OK, so I didn't know how to title this and I didn't know which folder this topic should be in. My best friend, who has been engaged for a couple of yrs now, asked me yesterday to be her MOH for her wedding. Here is the situation, yesterday BEFORE she asked me, I told her that I am 16 wks pg with baby #3. I am sure it caught her by surprise, but she still asked me to be her MOH. She has two other women in mind to ask as bridesmaids (which she hasn't done yet). I accepted. She is my best friend, if it were anyone else, seriously, I would say, "Sorry, I can't do it." So, I am so excited for her, BUT I am kind of freaking out inside too, b/c I WANT to be an awesome MOH for her, but I'm questioning my ability to juggle all of these different things. Luckily, my then 5 and 4 yr old will probably not attend the wedding and just stay with my in laws (who are in the same city as my friend, she's an hr away from us). So, at least I won't have to worry about two other kids.
So, here are the details. Her wedding is Labor Day wknd (first wknd of Sept), my baby is due the end of July (25th). Obviously, I'll need to throw her a bridal shower. I am thinking if I can do that by early July or even late June (my other two arrived on their own 6 days prior to my edd), that will be a huge wt off of my shoulders to have her shower taken care of before the baby arrives. I don't know if she will want to do a bachelorette type of party, my gut feeling is no, and I know a lot of women skip that now or just do a spa day instead.
So, now my other freak out is that I will obviously have a 4-6 wk old newborn while being her MOH at her wedding. First of all, the dress, I am already facing the fact that I am not going to look great, no matter WHAT the dress looks like, just b/c most women still look kind of pregnant at 1 mo postpartum and that includes me. I think she will be flexible, she hasn't even picked her dress yet, so I am going to wait and let her figure out her own gown (she's taking her mom) before even bringing up her expectations for bridesmaid gowns. I honestly don't think she will be too picky, luckily, she isn't the bridezilla type. HOWEVER, how the heck am I supposed to nurse gracefully in a bridesmaid gown? Doesn't that mean I'll pretty much have to sneak off to a private area every time I need to nurse and strip off half of my gown? Her wedding is going to be pretty formal. I've asked some other friends (who don't know my other friend) about this who think I am pretty much nuts and should just not do it at all. However, this is the ONLY person in the world that I would ever want to be a bridesmaid for. For anyone else, I would flat out tell them, "No, I'm sorry, but I won't be able to do this for you."
So, if any of you have been in my situation before, either as a bridesmaid and/or the bride, can you please share your experiences and if you have any good advice, I'd appreciate that too. Thanks!